Well, to begin, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and seven months yesterday. He is my best friend, he makes me feel pretty, respects me, has exposed me to so many new things, and above all loves me and all of my flaws. He is my first "real" boyfriend and practically my first everything (e.i. kiss, make out, sex etc.). I am absolutely crazy for him. We hardly ever argue and we communicate very well. We've never had issues with jealousy or controlling behavior. If you can't tell, I'm very, very happy with things. I even still get butterflies when he kisses me by surprise! What distresses me, though, is that my dad doesn't like him. My dad thinks that he has a problem with respecting others and being on their level. What sparked this was when my boyfriend and I went to visit my grandparents, both of which smoke cigarettes, and Kevin thought it was acceptable to whip out his tobacco pipe. My grandparents didn't say anything, but I know my grandma was probably a bit put off. When my dad found out about this, it just added fuel to the fire. I do see my dad's argument though, the BF tends to push the boundary of what is socially acceptable when it comes to age and what to do. (I'm going to talk to him about this) However, I can understand why he acts like this. Growing up, he was surrounded with older men who have had a significant impact on who he is, I think that he's so used to being around that these 60 + aged men that he sees them as his equals, which I guess makes him feel like he's everyone's equal. My BF is a go getter too, so he'll strike up a serious conversation with everyone. The combination can either be taken as really respectable or really disrespectful. My dad seems to think it's disrespectful and that the BF, in short, "is too big for his britches" as the saying goes. My fathers only other argument is "why would you settle for the only boy you've ever had sex with?" -yes he actually said this to me-. Now, girls, I know we're all told we are "naive" but I think that there is a strong possibility that my Kevin could be the one for me. What I feel makes me not naive is that I know the dangers ahead, I realize there is always a possibility that we wont work out or whatever. We're both going to college three hours from each other this fall. It will be a real challenge for us. However, my dad seems to think that I should break up with my BF because I shouldn't settle for just him, but why in the Hell would I just break things off when there "might" be someone out there that would make me just has happy as I already am? It's really insensitive of my father. I just really wish my father would at least stop acting like an ass in front of him, he doesn't even look at him when he's here, let alone talk to him. Ugh. Has anyone else gone through anything like this, and if so, is it fixable?