What is Going through my ex boyfriend's head??

[daniella123]

So after breaking up and not seeing each other for 2 months, we decided it was time to talk about our breakup, and so that I could get the closure that I needed. As soon as I walk through the door of his hotel room (he plays pro baseball, and was in an away series), he comes over to me and gives me and long and caring hug, and then proceeds to go in for a kiss. I didn’t try to pull away, because I wanted to see if I still felt anything (which, unfortunately, I still did).

We go over and lay on his bed and he immediately makes a move and he’s literally on top of me. After about a minute, I realize that this is bad idea and push him off of me and say “we need to be talking”. He says “yeah. Yeah we do”, and then attempts to hook up with me again. Then I get up because I don’t want to do something that I’d regret, and then he backs off for good and we actually talk.

Through the entire talk, we were cuddling. He broke it off with me and his reasoning was because he can’t handle long distance and knew he would have to once off season came. There was a little more to it but that’s the main point. I was very hurt by this of course. But every time I said something about my feelings, he would just hug me and tell me how sorry he was. At the end he asked me if I could be friends with him. So I asked him “why would I want to be friends with someone who doesn’t really care about me?” and a few tears come out of his eyes and he says “I do care about you.”
After our talk, he told me that he was going to be in Arizona (which is where I live) for a month after the season is over. He said he wants to take me to dinner a few times and he also asked me to celebrate his birthday with him while he was there.

3 extra little things to bring up is that he kissed my forehead or cheek every few minutes, and also started calling me “babe” and other little pet names again. Lastly, before we were ever official, he told me that he wanted to be friends after getting involved, and it turned out he was still crazy about me (hence why we got back together!) If you had a guess, what do you think he’s feeling? Is he just trying to use me for physical things? Or does he still have feelings for me?

[TAEHSAEN]

Well, you are the best judge here because we don't know him.

But from the looks of things, this guy just wants an off season hookup for a month and then break it off once he has to leave because once again, he 'won't be able to handle long distance'.

He doesn't care about you in the true sense. He just has feelings for you but no respect.


Best decision would be to leave him and look for someone else. We all know that he will break this relationship as soon as he leaves. If you're ok with a 1 month long relationship, by all means go ahead.

If you want long term relationships, he's not the guy to give it to you.