The signs of love

[ALovelyLady86]

I'm sure all of us at one point have asked ourselves how you can tell if a person, who is just out of a very long relationship, loves you... or whether or not youre just rebound for them to get back into the dating field.

I've only known Josh for a week or so... but he still talks about his ex. They had broken up 6 months ago, same and Chris and I, and had remained "friends" , same as Chris and I lol.

The difference here is... I got rid of everything that could even remotely remind me of Chris. He on the other hand, has kept every picture of his ex in his closet.

Is this just one of those differences between guys and girls? Or is this a sign?

I'm actually quite impressed because the second night we knew each other he called her and broke off their little "friendship". I could hear her cursing him all the way across the room lol. They havent spoken since. I decided that since he did it, I could too and I told Chris about Josh. Both our exes hate us now lol.

Opinions?

[Jeblina]

I'm sure all of us at one point have asked ourselves how you can tell if a person, who is just out of a very long relationship, loves you... or whether or not youre just rebound for them to get back into the dating field.

I've only known Josh for a week or so... but he still talks about his ex. They had broken up 6 months ago, same and Chris and I, and had remained "friends" , same as Chris and I lol.

The difference here is... I got rid of everything that could even remotely remind me of Chris. He on the other hand, has kept every picture of his ex in his closet.

Is this just one of those differences between guys and girls? Or is this a sign?

I'm actually quite impressed because the second night we knew each other he called her and broke off their little "friendship". I could hear her cursing him all the way across the room lol. They havent spoken since. I decided that since he did it, I could too and I told Chris about Josh. Both our exes hate us now lol.

Opinions?

Personally, I wouldn't judge based on how he deals with his breakup......people deal with loss in different way, just as they deal with mourning in different ways......it doesn't always mean that it's bad. I myself still talk about my ex sometimes (I broke up with him almost 2 years ago and had a child by him)....but catch myself doing it, and I try not to.

Talk to him about your feelings about him talking about his ex.....maybe he doesn't know that it bothers you...

[LightOn]

I don't think it's a difference between guys and girls, some girls will keep enormous amounts of pictures of there ex's also. I believe it's basically just personal interest.

You can look at that in both good and bad ways. He may be obsessed with her and might always compare future women to this one, on the other hand he may recognize she was an important figure in his life and he feels it's his duty to acknowledge that.

Does he say more good things about her or more negative things about her?

[ALovelyLady86]

I think I agree with you both. I dont think its really a huge deal but I wanted to get some opinions on it also.

It depends LightOn... one time we were talking about his family and religion and he told me that his ex hated Jews (hes Jewish) and we had a laugh about that. Its little things.

I do still believe he might need more time to let go of her, which is why I'm not going to push this relationship. I'm just going to be here for him and be good to him and if its what he wants he'll go for it.

[LightOn]

he told me that his ex hated Jews (hes Jewish) and we had a laugh about that. Its little things.

LOL...me too

Hopefully his recollection of the ex fades away.

Oh yeah....Happy birthday!

[ALovelyLady86]

Thank you so much! I'm glad someone other than my room mate, Josh and dad noticed lol...