Originally Posted by
Wakeup
BTW: Survivors Guilt is the last thing I'd think he was going through. He wasn't in the same situation and survived while she didn't. If she and he were fire fighters (for instance) and they both fell through a burning roof.. she died but he survived.. (as an example) then yes.... I'd agree he was suffering from PTS or SG.
While I agree to an extent, SG has a wider spectrum of people in that category then most believe. Some people who divorce and their former spouse passes away before they do, feel this, just as well as they would feel the same if their current partner passed away. SG is not so limited and everyone has a different way of reacting, you could be someone who lost a friend, a sibling, or another individual in which you were close to, and in the circumstance we are discussing, SG can make some people act this way. As illogical as it can be, it happens more often than not, this person we are discussing is more open and yes, I agree he needs to get help. What he is doing is hurtful, I don't think it is intentional because guilt being what it is, makes a person mad. I've never known anyone to have SG and be normal for a while. So we agree, to disagree and it is fine.
I suffered SG when my sister died, I didn't know it until I sought counseling for depression but it is, what it is. Even though we shouldn't feel responsible for those things out of our own control, sometimes we feel like we could have changed it, it really is a heavy burden to let yourself feel that way. Guy here needs counseling, that would be the best start for him.
As for the other stuff, I think there needs to be some clarity and discussion between the two. The reason for them splitting could be the very reason he is acting in such a way.
“I was never really insane except upon occasions when my heart was touched.” ― Edgar Allan Poe
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