What do i do???

[WhatToDo???]

Ok so there is this girl I met two years ago, she is very shy very inoccent and IS a virgin for a fact. I work with her mom and know both her sisters and get along well with all of them. I know this girl has been attracted to me since the day she saw me and over time my attraction to her has grown a lot to the point that I really want to be with her. She has just gotten out of a year and a half relationship about 4 months ago and I have decided to really pursue her. The trouble is I cant get jack out of her, when in person she can't look me in the eye and is always blushing but I can't get her to go out with me. She is the shyest girl I know and she has Morales but its not about sex with her. I want to win her heart. Bad things is I'm known to be a bit permiscuos, which I don't think I am. So can anyone give me some advise on how to convince her to go on a date with me? I really do want to be with her for who she is, cause if I wanted sex I would go after some slut in the bar and skip all of what I'm going threw.

[michelle23]

Your only interested coz shes a virgin. Leave her alone

[WhatToDo???]

Its not cause she is a virgin I vowed to stay away from virgins... She is different, special she has a heart of gold and I would never want to hurt her... For a little more info I met her 2 years ago and now she is 18 and I am 22... I honestly believe that she is the one girl who could capture my heart. I am not an ugly man and have dated girls of all different beauties and have never told a girl I love them. But with her I want to go slow and really get to know her and earn her trust. I want to take her somewhere where she feels comfortable with me and not some romantic dinner. I see our first date as a walk in the park or going to a dog kennel I volunteer at playing with the dogs.

Also again for those that think I want to get in her pants I have a massive amount of respect for her mom and consider myself an unofficial born again virgin because of how long ago it has been since I have been with a girl (8 months). I am serious I won't stop til I get some serious advise. Please help.

[michelle23]

You said you are known to be "promiscious" and want to "pursue her hard". That is something a player says. Lets face it-this girl is a HUGE challenge for you which makes her v desirable but will she still be desirable once the initial excitement wears off and she falls for your charms?

Make sure you are pursuing her for the right reasons and that you genuinly care about her before you go there.

This girl is extremely shy, introverted, anti-social and boring.. What do you like about her? Genuine QS. Plus youhvnt even had a conversation with her so again what do you like about her?

[WhatToDo???]

Well as I said I work with her mom and I met her 2 years ago when her middle sister (she is the youngest of 3 sisters) had her 18th bday party and I was invited by her mom to hang out with the adults by the fire. That was my first initial contact with her then and I was attracted to her but me being 20 and her being 16 at that time classified her as jail bai to me.

Now I have had many convos with her since she comes to my work a lot to see her mom and not just hey how are you, weather is nice huh?

This is a down to earth girl but is shy, especially when it comes to a guy trying to date her especially since the guy she just got out of a relationship with cheated on her. But to answer your question, what I like is she is athletic she plays soccer and volleyball as I play basketball and workout regularly. We both love fashion, such as going shopping, wearing nice clothes and looking good when we go out. She is a sensitive girl, she care for the environment and those around her and as I said she has a heart of gold and would give you.the shirt off her back if she knew you needed it. But she isn't an up tight snobby girl that will act she has never burped or farted(as we all have) she.is real true.genuine and she makes me want to change for the better in the.past couple weeks I haven't had a drink or smoked a cigarette and yes I smoke and play basketball I have great lungs. But I feel like she is one who could complete me and make me happy. And yea I may have been perceived as a player as you say but since I have started pursing her I don't care about.other girls I just want the opportunity to be with her... She feels like my missing half and if that isn't a good enough explanation for you then I don't want your help and ill just try my.luck and leave it up to fate.

[michelle23]

Okay if she just got out of a relationship and has been hurt-you could just be a rebound and end up with a broken heart. If shes emotionally unavailable-dont go there. Give her some time to heal first and maybe in a few months tell her you like her and ask her out

[WhatToDo???]

Now please don't take this as being cocky.... But she is over this past guy again her mom and sisters who I speak to frequently have all told me she is interested in me... That she wants to date me but she is seriously old fashion like doesn't call or chase a guy and makes them work hard to get a date which is why she has dated one guy cause most guys say its not worth there trouble...

And even if I could be a rebound I am willing to take a chance... I am not trying to talk to her every day and smoother her... But I am having trouble finding exactly what to do... I know I can't come on to strong and I can't ease my way in I know there is a fine line here but I can't figure out what that is
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[WhatToDo???]

Like this girl has a hard time talking to me... If her mom or sisters are around she will have a convo that' includes me all day cause she can look at others but if its just me and her she.will advert her eyes, blush and not speak to me like I'm embarrassing her and its just something I can't understand they say its cause.she is shy but I want to get past it and I feel I need to find that fine line to get threw to her

[michelle23]

Just ask her out. Y wud she say no if "she really likes you". If shes v shy-text her. Face-face would be awkward.
Just say "ive been thinking about you a lot lately and would love to take you on a date and get to know you better. What do you think?"

[namemyname]

You've known her for 2 years, and she can't look you in the eye?

I agree with Michelle - I think you're just seeing her as the ultimate challenge, and nothing more. If she were that into you, she'd give you more of a green light, shy or not.

[michelle23]

The reason she acts like that is coz she likes you and you make her v nervous. The more time you spend with her-the more she will relax and open up. You have to take the lead, plan the dates, make most the conversation etc until she feels more comfortable with you.

And before you make a move and kiss her its prob better to text her and say "i really wanted to kiss you tonight" and if she says "me too" you will know its ok to take the initiate on the next date