Looks as though everyone has some twist to their stories.. Mine is a little different…met a sweet women who had 3 children that did not like me at first… We dated for 3-years and i was told by her during the breakup how great of a guy i was and that she problably made a mistake by doing this to me…“she said she lost some of her feelings for me” what happened in the three years though was the kids grew on me and me on them… i would hug them, play with them and they would even tell me things that their mom did not know… I treated her great… i opened doors for her, send her flowers for no reasons, fix things around her house, do dinners, supported her through helping out for church fund raisers, even in her emotional times i tried to comfort her,,, I was never abusive, verbually ever,,, don't believe in that..… I may have smoothered her with to much love and i see that now i kinda took her Independance away……. the other thing is she was on a anti-depressent called Lexapro that really effected her…. she has a ex that is getting out of prison for abusing her 5-6 years ago…. He gets out (1) year from now….she got afraid and said she has to protect her kids and can’t keep up her home, work, kids and have a relationship at the same time… just wondering if i can even get close to her with that on her mind???? i have not seen her for around a month... i was a little frantic at first but now i calmed down.... she will answer if i call but i only talk about her kids and if they are doing ok she said a week ago i sounded better on the phone... and just say bye... hoping she would call me... she has not even tried to call me in the first month.... again only talks to me when i would call... but i feel guilty about that...do not know what to say....
i think she just answers because she doesn't want me mad at her..... to be just a freind.... does that make sense???