Hello to everyone reading this and thank you for your time beforehand,
Let me first introduce us and our case (altough I`m writing this alone). If you who are reading have any ideas/thoughts/experiences about this, I`m going to give it my best effort to explain the situation accurately:
We`ve been together for about an year now, and I wasn`t aware of her problems of feeling any physical pleasure until a week ago, when she told me she has never been able to feel any physical pleasure during intercourse, not with anyone. She physically enjoys oral sex tough.. I tought it was a bad joke because I would had really given our sex-life a 10/10. And here comes the strangest part;
She says that our sex-life is a 10/10 in her mind and there is no problems whatsoever preventing our sex being as perfect as I experienced it before this information, and of course my first toughts are supposed to be that she is only telling it to save atleast some of my feelings (I`m really aware of this), but for some reason I don`t know what to believe in, I want to believe her.
Here are some facts I believe are better for me to just list here, they make a big difference in my thinking process:
- She has about always had an orgasm during our sex, only times that she hasn`t are the times when she has not wanted and those times are really really low %. So basically she has received 1 orgasm/day on average, that`s my honest estimation based on my memory.
- She gets her orgasms either by rubbing her clitoris while we have have actual sex (and it`s always succesful, she does not fake it because there has also been times when she only wanted to ****.), or then by me giving her oral sex or rubbing her.
- She has always made like 90% of the initiatives, and this is what makes a huge deal, there has been countless numbers of times when I`ve been too tired to have sex cause I work hard, and she has been just moarning for it and almost forcing me into it. I`ve never been in a relationship with a woman who wants as much sex as she does. So even after 1 year of being together, she practically demands sex every day, often many times.
- She is able to ejaculate while we have sex. (Don`t know if this makes any differences but it`s something concrete)
- I don`t have a small penis. Just to repeat, she has never felt pleasure with anyone during intercourse.
- She claims that she gets so much from our sex on the mind-level, that it`s the reason why she is able to get orgasms during it, and wants it so bad all the time. Of course she would like to feel physical pleasure, but she has never felt it so she can`t really miss it, and I don`t know how to help her altough I tried and tried desperately after hearing about this..
Can`t come up with more details really, but here comes the real problem from my part:
I have noticed during the week I`ve known about this issue, that I have lost a big part of my thrill towards sex, because I don`t know what can I give her, except oral sex. And I don`t know what to believe in about the things she tells me about how good our sex is. It`s killing me to know that I�ve tought all this time that she feels physically the same way I do. It has made me really depressed, and I`m having a mental block in engaging into sex at all. This can cause so many problems to our sex-life, which has been inch-perfect before this, that I`m asking you guys to give me any possible advice, for both myself and her?
I don`t want to lose my desire on having sex, and I want to know if there is something we can do in order to make her feel physical pleasure, so there really is two separate problems even tough they`re heavily connected.