Need advice, about to lose her!!!

[orla910]

Yeah, and people always make the mistake of saying too much, when the best thing to do is say nothing. I think you should end it on your terms and do it via text so she doesn't get the relief she would get from feeding you a line of bullshit and you accepting it. You stay in her head by leaving her in the dark.

Send her something like,"If you've already chosen to go back to <insert name>, I understand, but I'd rather not meet up to talk about it." Just be very short with her, and do not be apologetic at all.

well i ended up meeting her yesterday, told her she was wrong in her decision but that i would respect it and leave her alone if thats what she had decided..

[orla910]

Dont complicate things. Your best feature is that things are simple with you since you are only in romantic stage. Set a deadline - let her know or not but wait no longer than two weeks cause you could be banging other girls by that time already. I personaly would say something like: "Im gona be happy no matter what, you choose to be together with me or not."

Really just one sentence so she knows that your reality depends on you not her which is attractive to girls. Also you wont be needy in this way which is unatractive(run after girls).
Her feelings is not gone for him or he have money or something cause it dont make sense to get back together otherwise. Anyway some things you cant control so if shes gone its not your fault.

thank you, well shes gone, i didnt give her a deadline or anything, i just told her i hope she wouldnt regret it, and to be happy..

[orla910]

This is easy. You support her by saying that the child's well being is very important and that he needs to be brought up in a loving environment. All you need to do is make her understand how important her child's well being is to you. She will not stay with her ex because of her child, if that was the case she would still be with him, all you have to do is be supported and show you are willing to be a good father to her child.

i tried being supportive, but to her trying to be with her ex was best for her son, even if it wasnt the best for her, as long as her son was happy, thats according to her..

[orla910]

This could all be horseshit too. People rarely tell you the real reason y you are being dumped. Its nicer to say that its about her son instead of saying i just dont like you..

I could be wrong but id never try to convince someone to stay with me no matter what reason he gave me. If he said we have to break up coz the sky is purple i wouldnt correct him and say the sky is blue..

Dont bother meeting her. You already know its over so whats the point?

i know, i didnt try to convince her, i told her if thats what she decided ok, all i have to do now is move on

[4 ratties]

Find another woman. One that doesn't have any annoying baby mama drama.

[orla910]

Find another woman. One that doesn't have any annoying baby mama drama.

i just really cared for her, but youre right thats what i have to do

[okwhat2013]

i tried being supportive, but to her trying to be with her ex was best for her son, even if it wasnt the best for her, as long as her son was happy, thats according to her..

I don't think you understand, of course right now she thinks that is best but it won't last. If you want to be her you should be setting yourself for when that happens. You shouldn't of said what u did, think two steps ahead oh well, I tried to help, you can post here again in a month when she leaves her ex again and she starts contacting you again.