Originally Posted by
lopsidemaniac
So I have been sleeping with this guy for about six months and everything is fine, but I want to step the relationship up a notch, because right now we're just friends with benefits... We're both 18, in university and are both in the same dorm... in fact he's my next door neighbour.
So here's the back story. He's a super gamer, but the rare type that is hot and good in bed. Stubborn as hell. Never ever leaves his room, so all interactions happen either on FB or in his room.
At first we did talk about being in a relationship and dating and he said that he wasn't ready and that he knew if we did start anything, it'd end up badly (I know right? How the hell can he tell the future, but he said that every relationship he's had has ended badly and it was because of him) and I wasn't really mentally prepared to be in a relationship either. So we ended up just being sex buddies, because we liked each other.
Six months later, the sex is still great and we enjoy each others company and I'm ready for something more, but I'm afraid to ask and run the risk of losing what we already have.
I know I did everything wrong and someone on here is probably going to say, 'you're stupid for doing the friends with benefits thing' and I admit that fully. I have probably ruined my chances of becoming more than friends, but if anyone has advice on this subject, do tell, because I really like this person.
So what do you expect from this, really? You're 18 you're in first year, you don't know where your career will take you. Do you expect one or the other of you to move where the other lives? Do you expect to spend the rest of your life watching him work and then come home and game until his skin is as white as a newborn's ass from lack of sunshine? Have you thought about what he's even like as a person? Anything besides the sex. You mistake sex for love and now you want more? Well more of what? A douche who games all day and stays inside 24/7? Really? That's what you want more of?
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion