Drawing a line text...

[Adamis]

Brief background: Broke up with my ex last Sunday after 6 months of seeing each other. She cited that whilst she still liked me, felt that we were different people. She herself admitted that it might just be her scaring herself out of a commitment. She also wanted to remain friends immediately.

Since then, I’ve tried to give her space and cut contact but she kept texting asking if I was okay and other friendly conversations, which h isn’t what I want as I still really like her. I replied as to not appear rude, but once the conversations died then I wouldn’t respond.

She text me last about 2 days ago, but I just want to send one last message to let her know my thoughts and draw a line under it. Whether this means letting her go or her coming back, I need a conclusion.

I appreciate I should have nothing to do with her, but I need to do this. Please advise on how to improve the message I’ve composed:

“Hopefully you understand why I’ve been a bit silent for the past few days.

You know where I stand, how much I like you and what I want.

You mean the world to me so I refuse to cut you out of my life. However, I need some space as everything is still so raw.

At present, I’m one slip in composure away from turning up at your door armed with a romantic poem, a dozen red roses and an unhealthy amount of Chinese Takeaway (her favourite food).

I don’t agree that we should have stopped seeing each other as there is something there between us. But it is your decision and I have accepted that.

You finally deserve to put your own happiness first, which is what I want for you”

I know this doesn’t conform to male 21st century dating rules, but she needs to know why we can’t be friends at this moment in time.

[Cerby]

Easy, your message is good, except for all of it. Don't put a bunch of useless crap into a message when all you're doing is telling her to leave you alone. Replace that trainwreck you've written with this:

"Our relationship is over, but I'm not over it. Please respect my space and leave me alone."

[Ginger2013]

I agree, it's too much, you're laying it on really thick. She wants to break up with you, but demote you to friends only. If you can't handle it because it's too raw, as you said, then just tell her you don't think being friends will work out, wish her the best, see you around...that kind of thing. Then don't contact her and don't receive her texts, i.e. block her for your own good and healing.