Hi,
I think I've got a pretty complicated situation on my hands... So I met this guy in an online community, but he lives in the US and I live in Europe. We were talking for about 6-7 months and getting along great when he told me he had feelings for me. Then we started talking about me going over there during the summer, which I ended up doing. I was only there for a pretty short period of time we both felt we sort of had to rush into things and since I'm inexperienced and I had some anxiety as well, no real intimacy happened between us, even though he made his feelings very clear and we both had a wonderful time.
Anyway, when I got back home and had some time to think clearly I realized I had feelings for him as well because he is a pretty amazing guy and that I "should've done more". I let him know this and asked if he'd be okay with me coming back for a much longer time so we could take it slow and didn't have to rush into things like last time. At first he was enthusiastic but then he suddenly said like "I don't really want to do the long distance thing again, maybe we should just wait until a couple of months down the road and then talk about you coming back, meanwhile we're both free to do whatever we want". I'm pretty sure he's not dating anyone yet but obviously he wants to soon.
Now my question is, should I wait until a few months down the road or should I just give up and move on? Because right now we don't really talk much anymore and he seems to have lost interest, even though he's still very sweet when we do talk. I just don't want to be the desperate girl that keeps waiting for a guy, especially since my neurotic mind is telling me that I would be second choice anyway... only if he didn't start dating anyone else during the next few months he would want me to come back.
So should I just move on and even if he asks me to come back later on tell him I won't? Or should I give us and the rare connection we have/had another chance?
Thank you!