I miss my ex. What should I do?

[BobxMarley]

I split up with my ex girlfriend of 4.5 years around three months ago. It didn't really hit me at first. But now, three months later, I've been missing her pretty bad. I felt this urge that I should be single when I split up with her. It was a thought I had daily. Now, its reversed and I think daily about how much I miss her and how my life seems to have gotten worse. I did have a short rebound in between...and by short I mean 3 weeks.

I've kinda feel like I've been having a quarter life crisis. I think this feeling started several months before we split up and was partially the cause in me searching for a fix. Now, I'm just flat lost. I don't know what to do. Do I let her go or do I try and get her back? I feel like I would have already tried to get her back but the disapproval of my parents and best friend makes it hard.

I'm 25/male she was 26. Our relationship was healthy despite some bickering. She never seemed her happy self when she was outside her normal crowd. She has the same job from high school, same friends, and still lives a home. So it seems like she gets stressed and puts up a wall to anything outside her comfort zone. This was my main complaint and I believe I would be 100% happy if I could solve that one negative trait. I just wanted to bridge the gap between her and the rest of the people in my life.

Should I let her go or do you think this is something that can be mended? If you can quote experience that would be awesome!

[smackie9]

She is who she is and you can never change that. I'm sure if you sat back and go over why you left in the first place, and how you felt, you will realize there were many reasons, not just one. I feel you are missing her because you are having a hard to adjusting to life without her that is all. The rebound was a quick fix to fill that void, but of course rebounds are temporary.

You need to give yourself time to heal, and fill your time with getting back with old friends, things you used to do, meet new people, take up a new hobby, etc. You need to get back to living life.

[Leslie]

I agree with smackie9!

I had a few long term relationships also went trough many break-ups with my best friends.

The biggest problem people deal with after a long relationship is to get used to live alone, to be alone.
It is always easier to have someone by your side, emotional support, someone you can count on and someone who you got used to.
But you have to remember why you left, what were the problems, they wont be gone if you get back together.

I remember how it was for me... when I was happy, having fun with friends, going out with new men I felt great but after just a few times I was alone, I felt sad or something, I got the urge to run back to my EX. But that won't fix anything.

If that is not the case with you, think about it and then try to fix your relationship, talk to your girl and show her you want to work on it, make it better and I hope you both will find your happiness. Talk about what bothers you and listen to her what she has to say.
But please, think about it before you go back to her, she does not deserve to be left once again.

DO NOT listen to your parents or your friends!!! The only thing important is what do you want, it's your life.