Loyalty conflict.
So I have this best friend who is a bit of a hussy. Her and her bf have been together 7 years, on and off, and they have a 2 year old. When she is single (even when her bf and her take breaks) she tends to sleep around. As far as I know she's never actually "cheated" on him.*
Well a few months ago we went to a band after party at a bar, and she ended up going to the AFTER after party, at their hotel, I went home to my bf. I assumed nothing happened because a) her and her bf were together at this point (even though he was out of province working) and b) she normally tells me when when she does anything with anyone.*
Well last night my bf went to play poker with some friends. We are a huge group of friends so we all know each other, etc. So last night 2 of the guys we all hang out with told my bf how my friend had a pregnancy scare after the band after party. Like I said, her bf was out of province working, around this time, meaning it couldn't have been his. I was skeptical about this information, thinking to myself, surely she would have told me, and it really upset me knowing that her personal life was being discussed by a bunch of guys at a poker table. Now obviously she had to have told someone, when she obviously shouldn't have, but you'd think, that information of that magnitude would have been told in confidence. I told my bf that I planned on telling her and and essentially asking her about it, and he lost his mind. He said that he'd be the one getting shit for telling me. I explained to him that he put me in an extremely awkward position. If the roles were reversed I would want to know that people were talking about my personal life behind my back. Essentially (according to my bf) they were calling her a slut, when these people claim to be her friends. Now, I get the whole "act like a slut, be treated like a slut" *thing, but usually she is very discreet, and not many people know that she is like that. She obviously told this person in confidence, if she didn't even tell her best friend. And they go blab to the whole poker table. A part of me completely understands my bfs point of view, and I told him in the future that if he ever hears something about one of my best friends, he needs to tell the person to shut up, or just not tell me. Part of his freak out, was his claim, that my friendship with her is more important than my relationship with him, which obviously isn't the case. I
I haven't said anything to her yet, but I feel like a horrible friend!! She should be warned that she obviously can't trust, whoever it was she told about this situation. What if she tells them more? What if she confides in them, and continue to tell everyone? I don't want my bf to feel like I am betraying his trust, but I also feel like I am betraying my best friend....*
What the hell am I supposed to do here?*
Now before you all attack me about her, and tell me that she should just stop acting like a slut, don't bother. I'm well aware that what she does is stupid, but it is what it is, so please just focus on the issue at hand. Thanks.*
Trying to bring people down, only means that they are above you