My 28 year old sister has started chatting (re-chatting?) with a man who has a 13 year old son (he's only 32). They've had a thing for each other for quite some time, but much like myself, my sister really wants a baby sometime in the near future. I'm the type of person who throws everything out on the table in the early stages of dating so intentions are clear. I've been advising her to just flat out ask him if he's interested in having more children, since this would be a deal breaker for her if his answer was no. He's made it clear to her that he is looking to get married, but no talk of kids.
She's afraid asking this "too soon" will scare him into thinking she has their children's names picked out and his last named already paired with hers. While I do agree this type of question can be scary if asked too soon, I have no idea when is "too soon".
Thoughts?