has any one ever loved unconditionally before ?

[basilandthyme]

Nope, never loved unconditionally. I have to have my basic needs of respect, caring, thoughtfulness, compatible morals/ethics met for my love to continue.

I'm with Michelle in not understanding how someone can love a partner who treats them like rubbish.

[searock]

*snerk* No it's not.

Love between parents and children can be unconditional. Better? Parents generally love their child no matter what happens.

[LifeInflux]

Nope, never loved unconditionally. I have to have my basic needs of respect, caring, thoughtfulness, compatible morals/ethics met for my love to continue.

I'm with Michelle in not understanding how someone can love a partner who treats them like rubbish.

Loving unconditionally doesn't mean you're a doormat... There are things like tough love, and doing whats best in a situation for you and them without loving them any less.

For example I love one of my friends... if he were to start sticking his nose into my business, I wouldn't love him any less. If he were to hit on my girlfriend, again, we'd have problems but .. well for one he'd never do that because I choose my friends carefully, but no.. if he ever needed me for anything I wouldn't turn my back on him for being human and making mistakes.

I would easily ask him to leave my house if he was being an asshole... but if he were to call me stranded on the side of the road, I'd still come pick him up.

I think people just have to strict of an idea of what you "have" to do when you love someone unconditionally.

[searock]

Loving unconditionally doesn't mean you're a doormat... There are things like tough love, and doing whats best in a situation for you and them without loving them any less.

For example I love one of my friends... if he were to start sticking his nose into my business, I wouldn't love him any less. If he were to hit on my girlfriend, again, we'd have problems but .. well for one he'd never do that because I choose my friends carefully, but no.. if he ever needed me for anything I wouldn't turn my back on him for being human and making mistakes.

I would easily ask him to leave my house if he was being an asshole... but if he were to call me stranded on the side of the road, I'd still come pick him up.

I think people just have to strict of an idea of what you "have" to do when you love someone unconditionally.

Again, I think this thread is about romantic love.

[LifeInflux]

Again, I think this thread is about romantic love.

I would say that its still possible with romantic love... given the right person.

[jameslarkin]

@horndog

you seem like a smart cookie, you've said some really inspirational things, i agree that a great number of people on this site really don't know a lot about the basics of love, why would they, if they knew everything about love they wouldn't be on a site like this

"unconditional love are also the same people who trust conditionally."

i really got a lot from this 1 comment, much more than i have pretty much anything else i have seen on this site

iv really been thinking a lot about unconditional love and unconditional trust with regards to my last failed relationship, i think it will help me understand a bit more about where im going wrong and i can start to try and do things in a more unconditional way.

to others of course i'm talking about unconditional romantic love

"until you let go of all your fears and insecurities "

again brilliant, another thing i have been thinking about a lot was my jealousy, insecurities, and many other un healthy part of my personality, kinda empowers me to think about them more and how they effect my love life

[jameslarkin]

I would say that its still possible with romantic love... given the right person.

i totally agree, i just think my last gf just wasn't meant for me

[IndiReloaded]

You can choose to love unconditionally b/c the love comes from *you*. That doesn't mean the recipient of your love is trustworthy enough to receive it, or will want or be able to reciprocate.

I love my family and children unconditionally. When I look within, I can even say I love my son's father. But that in no way makes him a good partner for me. So I've chosen to share my romantic love with someone else and I love my ex by wishing him well and letting him go. As HIA says, love isn't zero-sum.

[Wakeup]

Love is unconditional... it's the relationship that has the conditions.

[LifeInflux]

Love is unconditional... it's the relationship that has the conditions.

About 80% of the time I like you all the time.

[Ginger2013]

I did definitely, but my illogical wording was that I was "too forgiving". When you love unconditionally, you become a doormat in most cases, lose your confidence and self-esteem and end up hating and resenting your partner. Of course, there are circumstances where unconditional is a good thing, like if your partner is terminally ill and you stick with them, but I assume we're talking about putting up with their sh*t no matter how badly they make you feel?

[searock]

I love my family and children unconditionally. When I look within, I can even say I love my son's father. But that in no way makes him a good partner for me. So I've chosen to share my romantic love with someone else and I love my ex by wishing him well and letting him go. As HIA says, love isn't zero-sum.

So, you don't romantically love unconditionally. I do think love can be unconditional, just not romantic love. That's how it works for me, at least.

[pcmaster]

Sounds like we love in many diferent ways. I think love is to be build in heart. By actions by thoughts that builds and proves fate.

[fearoflove]

There has to be reasons why you love someone.

[Rowen]

I have and still do...it's just become something entirely different, but there's a place in my heart no one can take away. I know that I'm young, but I feel like it was true.