Julia, you've only been together a week and he's already pressuring you for more than making out? It's too much too soon - and he's trying to take advantage of you.
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Julia51423
Also, I should add that he is WAY more experienced than me and when we makeout I know he wants to go farther but I said I won't let him until things last for a while or get more serious, and he says he's never restrained himself so much when making out for so long. I find this kind of to be a compliment and I told him I really appreciate him doing that. Then he said he would do anything for me and he said it sweetly, but im not stupid so its hard to tell if he is just saying that or if he really means it. He's not used to "taking things slow" lol but for me they are moving fast. So idk if he really cares about my opinion or if he is jut faking it long enough until he can get some. So yeah....
This stuff he's telling you - please don't view it as flattering. Truth is, he's trying to guilt you into putting out for him. I may be old now, but teens and hormones haven't changed that much since I was one in the 1980's- and still I know a pack of lies when I hear them. Some teenage boys will say anything to get laid and that's something which hasn't changed.
Do you really believe that EVERY girl he's ever dated has gone further than kissing in the first week? Of course not the truth! There's also every chance he's actually a virgin and just exaggerating his experience (unless you know a girl who will attest to having had sex with him). His determination to get laid just reeks of 'desperate virgin'
I'm not saying you should dump him. But you need to put the brakes on any physical activity which you're not comfortable with. I suggest you tell him that it may be many months before you're ready to go further (and I hope you DO wait many more months!) and see if he hangs around. If he doesn't wait for you, then he's probably gone to look for another naïve girl to try and sleep with. Don't let him bully you into this.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.