Hey guys, this is my first post, so bear with me if I include unnecessary details.
I'm currently in a relationship with someone and have been for a month or so. We were friends for about roughly a year before deciding to give the relationship a shot. The problem has now come up that she liked it better when we hung out as friends, because she wasn't "obligated" to make time for me. She is a very independent person and very involved in school, work, church, and her family. She told me herself that she does indeed like me - it's just she's not willing to put in as much effort as I'm willing to put in for her. There's not much I can do when she tells me she feels burdened to spend time with me, and doesn't miss me when she goes away for long weekends.
Now, I can see a variety of solutions to this problem, but I'm just not sure what the right one is, so please help me.
a) I can cut my losses and breakup. I'm very much a hopeless romantic so I need to be sure in a relationship that there's a tangible future, otherwise it's a waste of time. This is the "easiest solution" so to speak, but I would be very hurt by it since I like her very much.
b) She needs to put in more effort while I have to put in less effort. Maybe I'm coming off as too clingy or too needy, but I'm just trying to show her that I care. I made a care package for her the other day because she was feeling sad, but it seemed to have the reverse effect. She commented that she doesn't have the time to put in that much effort towards me, and feels selfish. I don't think she's necessarily a selfish person - I just think I'm not heavy on her priority list.
Which begs the question... if I should stay or should I go. I really like her. I really want to make it work. But I'm not 100% sure what the best solution is at this point. Please help.