My boyfriend invited me to his friend’s birthday party last Saturday. I was really nervous because I didn’t know anyone, so I drank too much beer to quickly and I got really drunk. I walked out into the parking lot by myself and I threw up on the pavement. My boyfriend came outside to keep me company and I just started acting like a drunken fool. I asked him if he loved me (we have been dating for 6 months) and he said, “No, I don’t. I have some feelings, but they’re complicated”. This made me very emotional and I started crying and acting kinda nuts. We sat in my car and talked until 11pm. He didn’t even go inside to hang out with his friends. We got a hotel room that night (we’re in a long distance relationship and he lives with his parents, so every time we see each other, we get a room). We had sex that night and the following morning. It seemed like we had made up. However, I drove home on Sunday and he has not contacted me at all this week (which is unusual, because we talk every day, usually). I tried calling him twice last night after work and he did not answer my calls. He also did not call me back, which is what he usually does after he misses my calls. I sent him this message on facebook today and he read it but he did not respond to it:
“I tried calling you and it seems that you have been ignoring my calls. I’m sure you have a reason for doing that. I couldn’t give a sincere enough apology for my drunken behavior on Saturday. I’m also sorry that I put you on the spot by asking you about love, ect. I would not have asked that question or said most of what I said if I were sober. If you don’t love me, that’s okay. The truth is, I do have genuine feelings for you, even though I have tried to stay guarded around you to avoid getting hurt. A lot of things aren’t easy for me when I’m under so much stress all the time. I’m sorry for letting that complicate our relationship. I know that it did. I realize that I need to find healthy ways to manage my stress and I am going to do that.”
We are still “friends” on facebook and “in a relationship” on facebook. I’m wondering what’s going on.