What to do..

[Dime]

I met this girl on the internet quite a while ago, we never met each other in real life but we're planning to, i got to chat with her a lot and we became best friends. I'm pretty sure i'm in love with her (haven't told her yet), and i have honestly no idea what to do. She doesn't feel the same for me, i don't like long distances relationships. I can't not chat with her, i do it everyday and in most days it's the only time i smile during all day. I can't just take a plane and be with her because we agreed to not meet each other before a certain age and i can't just write her my feelings, if i have to do it, i'll do it face to face. She's amazing, and i wish i could get someone like her in my life by my side, she'd be the ideal girl but right now that's an impossibility, maybe in the future, at least i hope so. My problem is not whether i should tell her or not...it's how i get out of being in love with someone that is exactly what i look for and that i chat with everyday almost all day. Any advice would be great...i'm really clueless :\

[Agnus]

You should surprise her each time you communicate with her so that she could be clueless what expect from you. That will keep her under tension and she will go crazy because there will be no way for her to get satisfied.

[smackie9]

Internet LDR's are 20% reality and 80% fantasy. Since you have never met, your imagination fills in what's missing....and it's usually far off from what they are really like irl. Basically talking with her is just fueling your fantasy of having a GF. The reason you are here is reality is starting to kick in.....your relationship isn't going to happen, it's not doable, it's not going to work. She IS NOT your ideal girl, she is just a girl you talk to because you are lonely.

You are getting bent out of shape over a girl you talk to that you can even be with.....you need to go out with your friends, and be in the real world where you can meet girls in the flesh, that you can touch, kiss and hang out with....doesn't that sound more realistic?

[4 ratties]

You get back in touch with reality and realize this girl is not this perfect person you make up in your head. You can be whoever u want on the Internet. Everything is filtered. You can only show what u want. Stop talking to her.

[Boisdevie]

...i'm really clueless :\

True. Just listen to yourself. You're communicating with a woman you've never met in person and you think you love her. Dear god, do you realise how stupid that sounds. Such a shame there are no real women where you live that you can date.

[Boisdevie]

You can be whoever u want on the Internet.

Yeah, bet 'she' is an overweight truck driver from Phoenix. Me, I'm the President of the United Arab Emirates, I just come here in my other guise for a laugh. When I'm not sit on my solid gold toilet having a shit or wondering what to do with all my money.

[Dime]

Yeah, bet 'she' is an overweight truck driver from Phoenix. Me, I'm the President of the United Arab Emirates, I just come here in my other guise for a laugh. When I'm not sit on my solid gold toilet having a shit or wondering what to do with all my money.

She's not an overweight truck driver haha. I've seen her, met part of her family, met her close friends...

Basically talking with her is just fueling your fantasy of having a GF. The reason you are here is reality is starting to kick in

That might be a possible explanation....it does make sense....a lot of sense...but i do go out and everything...but i still prefer to chat with her over that :\