Ok here goes long story am 42 my ex 27 an from another country she been missing home badly arguments started although most could be abortion she had cpl of yr ago she been depressed went home for 20 days came back worse after 2 weeks of asking to go back for a month we had jobs can't afford to we split but for 2 week of her saying come with me or beg me to stay she left yes I was complaint at her past 9 month she did nothing at home ,well any way she left told me to find someone else and soon after I miss you then I hate you etc etc we talk but once it goes to feelings she 2 busy to talk anyway she told me again other night to find someone else she doesn't want anyone yet she will say the next day love you miss you huh?ive tryed to get her to come back and sort her things out she finally said she be her few week then she going back and this time on phone she said but dont try beg me to stay all the times we talked I've got mixed signals am really confused I said you sure look happy there now and she said yes Iam but week later says I not happy and why should I tell you I ain't.yet when I rang after month 3 and told her am ready to move on and meet somebody she said I promise ill be here soon don't understand one min she misses next she can't be even bothered to talk I know it txts she told me I didn't realise for 3 yr she been dying inside all because we both stubborn yes that I've learnt I don't want to loose this woman but am not sure if it stubbornness of family that are putting thoughts in here head as before she keft they were pestering her daily to come back home .and yes she tells me to stop pestering her but all I say coz I been given no answers so when I leave her alone she will contact me plz advice I also took volt redundancy few month before we moved to big city as she was been made redundant am know stuck her with nobody I over drink every weekend my life is a mess help plz sorry if it confusing reading this but my head is shot,forgot to add her mum have same sort of temper very argumentive if she misses her family so much why has she spent the past month with her auntie in summer house other side of the country yet never heard her mention this auntie ,before u say I have now seen pics of her aunt and uncle so it no other man and in phone call other day she mentions missing her things does that mean the house or me sorry for blabbing on