Flirting

[unknowngirl]

What do you think it says about your current relationship if you have the urge to flirt with and talk to other men/women (depending on your preferences)?

Over it? Bored? Unhappy?

[DalM0m]

I don't think it says anything. I'm a total flirt. It's like breathing to me. I don't mean much by it; it's just fun.

It means something if the flirting behavior upsets your partner & you don't do anything to reassure that person that they are the most important person to you.

[bluesummer]

It only means something if you're flirting with the intention of turning it into more than that. People in happy relationships flirt all the time, it's just human nature....as long as you take it in 'fun' like it's supposed to be.

[michelle23]

I disagree. I feel its disrespectful to your partner to intentionally flirt with others. Your either committed or your not. Make up your mind and stop wasting your partners time.

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[Starnique]

I'm flirtatious but when i'm in a relationship, I don't flirt at all and I wouldn't appreciate whoever i'm dating doing it either. In a relationship, I just feel like why even entertain that?

[TheEvilJester]

I personally agree that it is not fair to your significant other to flirt while you are in a relationship. Whether you intend anything by it or not, it is not right. Not to mention, honestly, it also isn't fair to the person with whom you are flirting. Flirting sends the signal that you are interested. So, in a way, you are telling the person with whom you are flirting that you are interested even if that is not the case.

I think one mistake some people make is thinking that simply being friendly is flirting. There is a big difference between flirting and just being nice. That always annoys me when you just try to be nice to somebody and get accused of flirting. It is okay to be friendly with people, but if you are in a relationship, I don't think you should be flirting at all.

[unknowngirl]

I disagree. I feel its disrespectful to your partner to intentionally flirt with others. Your either committed or your not. Make up your mind and stop wasting your partners time. [/url]

I didn't say I am flirting... I said would you say about the "urge" to flirt.

[TheEvilJester]

Well, merely the "urge" to flirt is a slightly different story. Though, it is a bit of a slippery slope. I mean, we are human. Even when in a relationship, you can't help but find other women/men/whatever your preference may be to be attractive. The important thing is that you don't act on it. Not to mention, you really shouldn't even think of acting on it. In other words, it shouldn't feel like a struggle to not act on it. Attractive or not, if you are in a relationship, it is not right to stray, even emotionally.

[michelle23]

Why do you have the urge to flirt? Is there something missing at home? Flirting may seem harmless at first but its how affairs start so dont be naive. Im with my man 5years and we still flirt with each other all the time and the physical attraction is v intense and the emotional connection v strong. As a result i dont even noticr other men. Focus on fixing whatever the problem is and dont escape to others via flirting when things get a little tough. You are looking for an escape from reality, a dip in fantasy land which is never good in any relstionship. Focus on bringing back the spark and commit to keeping your wandering eye firmly on your partner from now on. Relationships take work and its not meant to be perfect all the time but seeking attention from others is never the answer and has major consequences. Dont go there

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[bluesummer]

Why do you have the urge to flirt? Is there something missing at home? Flirting may seem harmless at first but its how affairs start so dont be naive. Im with my man 5years and we still flirt with each other all the time and the physical attraction is v intense and the emotional connection v strong. As a result i dont even noticr other men. Focus on fixing whatever the problem is and dont escape to others via flirting when things get a little tough. You are looking for an escape from reality, a dip in fantasy land which is never good in any relstionship. Focus on bringing back the spark and commit to keeping your wandering eye firmly on your partner from now on. Relationships take work and its not meant to be perfect all the time but seeking attention from others is never the answer and has major consequences. Dont go there
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Seriously? I'm a deliriously happily MARRIED woman who'd not lacking for affection, lust, or respect at home in any shape or form. I'm so secure in my relationship that I know a little (non-initiated) harmless flirting is hurting no one, whether it's me doing it or my husband. I trust and respect him. I desire him. Do I look at other men? Sure. Do I think he looks at other women from time to time? Yep, I bet he does. It's a sign of incredible insecurity in a relationship when you think you have to fight nature and wrap your relationship in this protective layer that shuts out the opposite sex. I'd say don't flirt if it's your intention to try and pick someone up or if you're feeling lonely and unfulfilled in your relationship, but otherwise honestly who the hell cares?? It's not 'emotional cheating' unless you feel something for that person. It's not physical cheating unless you engage in a physical act. So what have you done wrong exactly? Maybe just cornered yourself into a misplaced sense of guilt.

[surfhb2]

^^^^

This

[Simpo]

My ex used to flirt behind my back and it really made me feel like crap and felt like I wasn't that important to her and found it extremely hard to deal with but she said it was just in her nature. I feel if you need to flirt or have an urge to, flirt with your partner, not some random guy or girl since doing so can 1. Make your partner feel insignificant and unimportant to you and 2. Can make the person your flirting with get the idea that your interested in them and lead to complications and unwanted problems. I disagree with the flirting isn't cheating unless you feel something because flirting with other people gives that person the idea that you may be interested in them and may want to pursue something more with them and will make your partner have doubts about the relationship.

My opinion is that flirting is perfectly okay if your single but in a relationship should only be shared between you and your partner. Maybe the odd, and on rare occasion flirt is okay if it is completely innocent or intended as more of a compliment than a flirt.

[michelle23]

Seriously? I'm a deliriously happily MARRIED woman who'd not lacking for affection, lust, or respect at home in any shape or form. I'm so secure in my relationship that I know a little (non-initiated) harmless flirting is hurting no one, whether it's me doing it or my husband. I trust and respect him. I desire him. Do I look at other men? Sure. Do I think he looks at other women from time to time? Yep, I bet he does. It's a sign of incredible insecurity in a relationship when you think you have to fight nature and wrap your relationship in this protective layer that shuts out the opposite sex. I'd say don't flirt if it's your intention to try and pick someone up or if you're feeling lonely and unfulfilled in your relationship, but otherwise honestly who the hell cares?? It's not 'emotional cheating' unless you feel something for that person. It's not physical cheating unless you engage in a physical act. So what have you done wrong exactly? Maybe just cornered yourself into a misplaced sense of guilt.

Your defensivness says it all really. Its not harmless and we all know it. I said nothing about looking at the opposite sex and i am by no means insecure. Your qs was simply about flirting which i believe is disrespectful to your partner and also feel its a sign that something is missing. Thats my opinion

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[surfhb2]

Depends on the circumstance. Believe me.....after you get older and have been married a decade or so, have children, people's attitudes on these kind of things and what's important in lasting relationships change

My wife is a grandmother, we've both have been through some tough times in the past and have now found where we think we stand in life. Infidelity or any kind of disrespect towards one another is the last thing each of us are worried about

[michelle23]

I imagine if you turn your attention to others after the kids arrive, its a recipe for trouble. Most peoples definition of flirting is different. To me its what you do when your interested in more than friendship. I cant think of any other reason to flirt lol.

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