I need a suggestion about how to forget my love

[saadu]

Hello i am new to this forum i don't know how to post a question. Please don't think bad if i have posted anything wrong. I am trying to forget my love but i cant able to do that due to this i am facing lot of problems and not even able to concentrate on anything can anyone suggest me the ways to improve myself.....

[DalM0m]

I'm sorry you are having problems but I'm not sure I understand your question.

When you say you are trying to "forget your love" do you mean you are trying to get over a bad break up? Or do you mean you are trying to end an otherwise good relationship because you have too much other stuff going on & can't spend the time & energy on romance right now?

If you can clarrify, I can try to help.

[mollymari]

Hello 'saadu',

Is it a bad break up or another situation all together? Some times a change of pace, new places, new faces and something else to do works wonders. If your stuck in the same routine with constant reminders of your ex, well, that won't help. What kind of problems are you facing if you don't me asking?

[saadu]

Thanks a lot my dear friends,
This is my first post in my life about asking like this that's why i have not posted clearly. I will clear you one thing about my situation. In my initial stage i am not at all a matured one due to my family environment and my financial status and even i don't know how to talk and don't know how to behave with others clearly. Everyone treating me like a joker instead of treating like a human and in that condition everyone i have seen are completely selfish and everyone is hurting in all the aspects. Slowly i am getting out of this situation and trying to be cool and stable whatever the situation may be. In that condition i have seen a girl and got impressed by her. In starting i use to tell myself that she is good and beautiful but you don't have anything more than that. On that time she is in trouble that's why i tried to take care about her and helped some how on her work but due to some misunderstanding she thought me bad. I have not done anything but my colleagues has created rumors on us and spoiled my relation. The persons whom i have trusted only done this type of things and hurted me which i can't able to bare. The problem is she is fine now but due to this guys she called me brother and cuttedoff my relation completely. I also understand my situation and trying to be calm. But now she is trying to talk few things which ever before happened. She is sitting side of me. Infront of everyone she said that i am the culprit and make me fool. Now everyone is treating me like a fool and an idiot which i dont care because i have not done any mistake but given them a chance to point out me. Even though the situations are calm now but i cant able to bare that she is in side of me and i cant able to talk with her like before and now the relationship is also changed so i don't want to make any mistake from my side. But i am trying to change my maind about her but it is not changing because she is infront of me. I know that she dont have any feelings about me but i really love and i want that she have to be fine whether i will be there with her or not. What i want to do now? I dont want to hurt anyone but cant able to stay like this.....

[mollymari]

Saadu,

It sounds like your on the road to allot of self realizations; that your finally understanding much of how some people treat you and how unjust it is.

From what you have said about this young lady, she doesn't sound all that sweet so I'm confused as to why you'd allow yourself this heartache for one who may need more experience regarding compassionate approaches.

You cannot allow anyone to treat you unjustly. You must love yourself before anyone else can love you. Do you know what I mean?
Look, sometimes, all too often really, people can be mean. Especially in a pack. Do not allow their energy to bring you down. Rise, rise above it and rest in the knowledge that You know who you are; and if the people around you make you feel any less than the good person you know you are, well, it is time to get new friends.
True you may be stuck in a classroom ( sounds like you may be) just shield yourself from their 'weak' behavior, let them go, your better than that. Don't let the jerks bring you down.

[DalM0m]

You know the truth. That you tried to help her & you are the good guy here. Take the high road but when the bad rumors reach your ears, correct them. Don't go into details. Just say "that's not what happened. I am not the bad guy here. She knows the truth. It's a shame that you believe the rumors."

Try to find positive things you like about yourself & focus on those.

As for getting over her, take up a new hobby, keep yourself busy, change your routine, even it is something simple like where you get your coffee in the morning. A change will take at least a small part of her out of your life.