I'm starting to feel like something isn't right. I don't know if I'm just making something out of nothing. I'm worried that I was a conquest, and now that I'm coming around and getting more comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship with him, the thrill has worn off.
Do I just initiate a conversation with him about this?
IMO.. you should have had that conversation before you left each other's company after spending the night together. If you didn't get the answer you want, then that would be your time to tell him that you'll not be seeing him anymore.
I still do not understand why so many woman put their emotional health in the hands of men who haven't shown them that they are willing to handle it.
Originally Posted by
DalM0m
I would back off b/c this sounds like a classic romantic "bait & switch". The guy talks all this stuff about babies & marriage & future, then after you have sex but before you have a commitment he throws the whole "let's go slow" in your face. News flash by definition, "taking in slow" precludes sex, at least in my book.
Well, if you (the general you) want sex within a committed relationship, then you shouldn't have sex until you talk about being exclusive with one another. Even then, you shouldn't have expectations that getting to know this guy is going to lead to anything long lasting.
Sex is not love and it often does not lead to love for many men. Unfortunately, women are different and too many of us tie our emotions and worth to sexual experience.
BTW: Going on about baby making and marriage doesn't mean he wants you to be his wife and the mother of his children, it just means that eventually, when he meets the right woman, he's up for it.
Last edited by Wakeup; 15-10-13 at 03:38 AM.
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