Recently found out that my girl of 2 1/2 years has been writing to a felon whom she met through a prison pen pals web site. I found some of the letters and she told this man, among other things, that she loves him and cannot wait to meet him. I was absolutely floored. Shocked, saddened and angry all at the same time.
I didn't confront her right away. In the mean time, I went through her phone and found several texts from one of her ex's going back to the beginning of the year. When he came to town (he is in the military) he would invite her out for drinks. She would meet him and several hours later he would send her an explicit text. The most recent of which was, "I will be dreaming of your sweet ass all night."
When I finally confronted her, she told me that the pen pal is just a friend, and that the ex likes o tease her but they haven't had sex in over 3 years. She accused me of being insecure and paranoid. And told me that she wanted to end it.
We've been in touch sporadically. It's been about 5 weeks. She came over a few times and spent the night. On one of these occasions we had a horrible fight and I said some mean things to her. She pulled back after that but we are still talking. She thinks I am an angry person and that I am not treating her right, but doesn't seem to have any empathy for my feelings or understand that my anger stems from her behavior.
I don't know what to do. I feel I am being played. She must feel something for me if we are still talking but why the games? And do any of you feel that what she did is forgiveable?