The Final Countdown

[MaxHeadroom]

(This is a long post. I apologize in advance!)

Hello ladies and gents!

Ok, so I am brand new here and I really need your guy's help! Here is the deal. I just turned 29 years old last week and I REALLY hate to admit this, but I am a virgin, big time! What I mean by that is not only have I never had sex, I've never been on a date, I've never been kissed, I've even even held hands with a girl before! I know, PATHETIC, right?

Why am I still a virgin you ask? Well, it is quite simple really. Up until last year, I really didn't give a damn that I was one. I have never really tried too hard to get with anyone. I have always been focused on other things like work, school, and hobbies. But now, for whatever reason, this whole being a virgin thing is now driving me mad! I thought that after getting out of my teenage years and early 20's that my sex drive would just fade out so I didn't have to worry about it. Boy I was wrong, so wrong! It just gets stronger everyday! If I don't get me some sex soon, I might just spontaneously combust!

So, my question is this then; how can I find a willing girlfriend? I am a pretty decent looking guy I am told and have had several women, good looking women actually, that have come onto me in the past. This can't be too difficult then, but I just don't know where to start really. For the past year I have been trying the online dating scene and have not had any luck. I have used all the sites imaginable, paid and non-paid, and although I have had many promising conversations and even several accepted dates, they NEVER go though! The women always finds an excuse to cancel our date and eventually stops responding altogether. I bet I have messaged over 3000 women in the last year and had no real luck. Online dating just doesn't work for me, period.

So, that leaves me with the real world; now what? Do I just go around and hit on women at random places? Like bars, parks, supermarkets, ect? Is that even acceptable to do or would I most likely end up with mace in the face?

The bottom line is I will NOT be a 30 year old virgin! Within the next 12 months, I am going to get laid no matter what it takes. I don't care if I end up having to find a paid escort or something, it is going to happen THIS YEAR! Of course though, I would much rather have a girlfriend to loose it with than some paid tramp.

I have 12 months. The countdown has begun. What can you guys suggest to help me out of this bind? I am open to anything and greatly appreciate any help I can get!

Thanks,
-Max

[MaxHeadroom]

Aw, no love for Max? That's nothing new, lol. Seriously though, surly some more experienced folks can chime in?

[surfhb2]

(this is a long post. I apologize in advance!)

Hello ladies and gents!

Ok, so I am brand new here and I really need your guy's help! Here is the deal. I just turned 29 years old last week and I REALLY hate to admit this, but I am a virgin, big time! What I mean by that is not only have I never had sex, I've never been on a date, I've never been kissed, I've even even held hands with a girl before! I know, PATHETIC, right?

Why am I still a virgin you ask? Well, it is quite simple really. Up until last year, I really didn't give a damn that I was one. I have never really tried too hard to get with anyone. I have always been focused on other things like work, school, and hobbies. But now, for whatever reason, this whole being a virgin thing is now driving me mad! I thought that after getting out of my teenage years and early 20's that my sex drive would just fade out so I didn't have to worry about it. Boy I was wrong, so wrong! It just gets stronger everyday! If I don't get me some sex soon, I might just spontaneously combust!

So, my question is this then; how can I find a willing girlfriend? I am a pretty decent looking guy I am told and have had several women, good looking women actually, that have come onto me in the past. This can't be too difficult then, but I just don't know where to start really. For the past year I have been trying the online dating scene and have not had any luck. I have used all the sites imaginable, paid and non-paid, and although I have had many promising conversations and even several accepted dates, they NEVER go though! The women always finds an excuse to cancel our date and eventually stops responding altogether. I bet I have messaged over 3000 women in the last year and had no real luck. Online dating just doesn't work for me, period.

So, that leaves me with the real world; now what? Do I just go around and hit on women at random places? Like bars, parks, supermarkets, ect? Is that even acceptable to do or would I most likely end up with mace in the face?

The bottom line is I will NOT be a 30 year old virgin! Within the next 12 months, I am going to get laid no matter what. I don't care if I end up having to find a paid escort or something, it is going to happen THIS YEAR! Of course though, I would much rather have a girlfriend to loose it with than some paid tramp.

I have 12 months. The countdown has begun. What can you guys suggest to help me out of this bind? I am open to anything and greatly appreciate any help I can get!

Thanks,
-Max

Youre giving off some vibe that turns them off. Not sure what is but online dating has to be the easiest form of dating there is. Bars and social clubs are good too.

Post your profile....Id like to see that.

[MaxHeadroom]

All my online profiles have been deleted for a couple months. It got too expensive, so I gave up on that. I had plenty of great conversations with many women, but even the ones that accepted a date invitation never followed through. I believe the majority of women with profiles online are just there for the attention and don't actually intend on meeting anyone. I guess they are just too scared or something. That was my impression anyways.

By the way, what is a social club? Do mean like a night club or something?

[surfhb2]

All my online profiles have been deleted for a couple months. It got too expensive, so I gave up on that. I had plenty of great conversations with many women, but even the ones that accepted a date invitation never followed through. I believe the majority of women with profiles online are just there for the attention and don't actually intend on meeting anyone. I guess they are just too scared or something. That was my impression anyways.

By the way, what is a social club? Do mean like a night club or something?

no....like a group that gets together and plays softball, surfing, or beach volleyball, ect

[MaxHeadroom]

Ah, ok. I see. So it is acceptable to approach women at regular public places then? Not just bars, night clubs, or other places like that where they expect it. That is good news though, considering I am not fond of those types of places and I don't drink too often.

So, let's say you see someone at a park you find attractive playing with their dog or reading a book or something. Would it be generally acceptable to approach a women in that scenario or are most women too uncomfortable when men approach them like that? If it is acceptable, then what would you say to start a conversion like that to someone you don't know at all?

Sorry for my social ignorance

[surfhb2]

Ah, ok. I see. So it is acceptable to approach women at regular public places then? Not just bars, night clubs, or other places like that where they expect it. That is good news though, considering I am not fond of those types of places and I don't drink too often.

So, let's say you see someone at a park you find attractive playing with their dog or reading a book or something. Would it be generally acceptable to approach a women in that scenario or are most women too uncomfortable when men approach them like that? If it is acceptable, then what would you say to start a conversion like that to someone you don't know at all?

Sorry for my social ignorance

Sure....why not?

[Kromat83]

a site that I have been using lately is :
meetup.com, just select your interests
and browse various activities to visit.

[MaxHeadroom]

Sure....why not?

Well I just thought with all the crazy stories you hear these days that women would generally not be receptive to meeting random strangers. I guess as long as you approach them in a public place with others around, they should feel comfortable, right? As long as it isn't in a dark back alley or something I assume, lol.

[MaxHeadroom]

a site that I have been using lately is :
meetup.com, just select your interests
and browse various activities to visit.

Yea, I actually just stumbled upon that site myself a bit ago. I was looking in my area and unfortunately it is mostly just social meetups for middle-aged and older folks. Might be able to find something on there though. Thanks

[surfhb2]

Well I just thought with all the crazy stories you hear these days that women would generally not be receptive to meeting random strangers. I guess as long as you approach them in a public place with others around, they should feel comfortable, right? As long as it isn't in a dark back alley or something I assume, lol.

Honestly you'll need to play the numbers game unless you are really good looking and/or have mad social skills. I think youre better off meeting someone on line or at meetup.com

[MaxHeadroom]

Yea, I do really need to get out more just talk to women more often in general. I have been building confidence quite a bit over the last couple years preparing for this. I've been working out/eating healthy and I'm now pretty satisfied with my appearance. In fact, I am in best shape of my life and feel pretty damn good about it! I have also built up certain muscles important to sexual performance and am confident that the first woman I go down on will be one very satisfied girl

Women do seem to be attracted to me as of late, so I think I am good there. I catch them pretty often staring at me, or parts of me at least, lol. A while back I asked a girl that seem quite interested in me to have lunch with me and she accepted quite excitedly, lol. That was a HUGE step for me and that was the closest thing I ever had to a date. It was actually a really nice experience and it helped me out more than that girl will ever possibly know.

I think I am ready for this. I just got to build up enough courage to "cold approach" the first one and I think I will be ok after that. The hardest part is that I have to change my personality a bit to be a tad cocky or "jerky" as women apparently don't like shy/nice guys. I just got to take that first lunge I guess. Maybe next time I go to a store or something I will try it out. Even if I look like a fool at first, what's the worse that could happen, right?

[surfhb2]

Just do what my friend does. He'll just go down the beach asking every girl he sees: " Hey...Wanna Go hang at my place and Fuuck?!" It may take him a couple hours but he ALWAYS Gets whats he's looking for. Its hilarious to watch too

Now thats what I call playing the numbers game!

[MaxHeadroom]

Just do what my friend does. He'll just go down the beach asking every girl he sees: " Hey...Wanna Go hang at my place and Fuuck?!" It may take him a couple hours but he ALWAYS Gets whats he's looking for. Its hilarious to watch too

Now thats what I call playing the numbers game!

LOL, are you serious? I'm surprised he hasn't had his testicles smashed into oblivion by some chick for doing that!

[surfhb2]

LOL, are you serious? I'm surprised he hasn't had his testicles smashed into oblivion by some chick for doing that!

Most just sit there dumbfounded that this guy just asked them that.