Hello all im new to the forum and was hoping for some advice really. not sure if this is the right section to post sorry if its now.
So here goes, My partner and I have just broken up about 2 half weeks ago and I want her back.
ill save the back story unless its needed and just try and give to the point facts. we were together for 7 year would have been 8 November 1st
and around 2 weeks ago she decided to end thing. we have lived together for a year so this lead to sticky issues with the place that we rent. so for the 1st week we were still sharing the same be. for me it was really confusing as in my head i was still living like we were a couple. doing the same sort of routine going to work coming back cooking for the both of us. but she was not in the same place as me. she just started a new job so had that going, she would do here evening training Monday and Wednesday evening but they go to friends after it. as well as going out on other nights. which i can understand with the situation.
during that time i starred to crumble i was not sleeping well and we were still in the same bed as mentioned i decided i would sleep on the sofa. now she had it in here head that we could be friends and still live together in different rooms. that was sort of her plan i guess. last weekend i just said i cant take how this is we sort of got into it. i said i think that she should stay at her mums for a week or so so i could get my head around things as there was no separation since the break up, we started talking about who was going to keep our home, with both of us wanting it. words word said and it was not great. either way she went and no contact begun. deep down i do not want this break up and i want her back.
the thing is she say she is not in love with me any more, but she does love me. where as i am in love with her but never showed it to her which is what lead her to this and falling out of love with me.
i sent message to her the day she left saying how much i love her and how i dont want things to end laid every thing out there and pretty much just got its over its to late etc. there was no contact for 2 days. tuesday evening she texted asking how i am i say not great. and we sort of continue text through out the week from that. this bring me back to how i was the week before missing and thinking about her constant. yesterday i lay every thing out there again, i dont want things to end with out me fighting for her and all that sort of stuff.
i get back stop putting pressure and i leave it at that. last night i decided i would not contact her at all now but do want her back. i send he one last message this morning just to say sorry if i put pressure on, i have come to terms with her decision and i wont contact her. what was strange was she asked what what i did that night to make my feeling change over night, i just said nothing i just took time to think and respect her decision. her responce was did i go out that night which i never. so i said no of course
so what im asking is can i win my ex back and make her fall in love with me again. deep down i dont believe she wants this and i dont think she has stopped loving me, but i do think i have pushed her to her limit with my actions. this being lack of affection, being quite around her family and friends and general living lifestyles.
i found some writing she did and its clear she was unhappy and i was a plum and was blind to it, but i never realized how bad it was.
i want to win her love back show her i can be the person she feel in love with and can be that guy she is thinking of.