Originally Posted by
RyanJames
Thanks so much for your valuable input B&T, wow 21 years, that is some going - congrats. I want to know your secrets lol
Can I ask a few more probing questions please? The things I am interested in are - Had you had many relationships before you met your husband? Have you had your fair share of arguments or has it been plain sailing in terms of how you get along? Have you ever gotten close to breaking up and why? How much of an influencing factor on you two sticking together have the kids been (or not)? and finally, how have you managed to keep from getting noted with the same person both psychologically and sexually for 21 years? I realise these are direct questions and I am hoping the anonymity of the forum will allow you to provide a candid response, however I will completely understand if anything I have asked is a bit too personal.
Yes, we have both had relationships before we met each other. I had a few boyfriends and a failed marriage under my belt and he had a few girlfriends and some stints as a solo guy.
Arguments? Well we do disagree from time to time, but we don't raise our voices: Problems are solved by listening and trying to understand what the other is saying...and by compromise and understanding. I would say it's been pretty much plain sailing. We've never nearly broken up.
I believe in not giving up on a relationship easily when you have kids, so if there were problems I'd try harder to solve them for the sake of providing a healthy family unit.
Noted?? In context, I guess it means 'bored'. Truth be told, the sex drive has dipped somewhat - but we still enjoy it when we do it. We don't get bored because we genuinely enjoy each other's company.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.