He broke up with me on the 30th via text. Over the past week he's tried twice to text/e-mail me mundane stuff, which I brushed off. Then he slipped an apology note under my door for being a jerk when he broke up with me. I e-mailed him for a little after that, but when I got upset and told him how hurt I was over everything he told me to F off.
He stopped talking to me after that; I e-mailed him a few more times about random stuff but no response. Then out of the blue last night he asks if I want to hang out. I accept, and while he's over here he's scrolling through his Facebook conversation with some girl trying to show me a link he sent her. I glimpsed him saying to her "told my ex to F off in five different languages, haven't heard from her in a week, think she finally got the hint. You're not crazy are you?" So after seeing that I kicked him out. Then, and I know it was wrong to do this, but I went back and read the rest of the conversation with that person. And I guess they slept together 3 days after he left me and are seeing each other now. He may have been chatting with her online while we were still together (not sure), but it wasn't a long-term thing since it appears they just met recently.
From what it looks like he's giving her things I had to fight for in the relationship - affection, openness, actually telling his friends about dating her (he's a private person and didn't many people about dating me or his last ex for that matter) etc. And he told a few of his other friends about how he was glad I'd finally "f'ed off," to put it in his words.
That's the first thing I don't understand... the same day he was talking about how he was glad I was gone, he texts me to hang out? Why?
And it's like... he has pet names for this new girl and they're doing xoxoxoxo. But with me it took months for him to do the pet name thing, or be comfortable with me showing that kind of affection, because he was scared to get too close to me in case I left him. I had to have SO many talks about how he was scared, why I won't leave him like the people in his past had, how I'm fine with going his pace, blahblahblah.
Any ideas what might be going through his mind?
I told him not to contact me after I found out, because he did this same thing back in May. Broke it off, was seeing someone else like a week later, that didn't last and then later on he approached me wanting to date again. I am just done at this point.
But I just want to know what could be going through his head. Was he ever really into me at all? I felt like we were really close, he really opened up to me, but he rarely opens up to anyone. Now it seems like he's opening up to this girl right off the bat. And it's like... Why?! Why is she getting all the things right off the bat that I had to fight for? Well maybe not fight, but it took a long time for him to trust and be open with me because he generally doesn't trust anyone due to past experiences. Is it really possible he dumps me and then the next day meets his Princess Charming? Did I mean anything to him?