Do I or don't I break up....and how to do it?

[barry1980]

Hi
I have been dating my gf for 8+ years now and its been a rocky ride. The latest is that I think she treats me a bit badly. SHe does not seem to love me and merely is just with me. She is snappy with my I find and is not very complimentary. Like I Had my hair cut the other week - she said it was too short and horrible. I wear a new top and she doesn't even remark upon it I have to ask her what u think of my new top - to which her usual answr is "Well if u like it thats what matters".

I am not on her fbook but saw saw that she was going to the zoo on Sunday with some bloke. SO I ignored her for a few days and finally answered her call yday and didnt play around but just said that I know u went to the zoo. Sh said yes she did. She called me childish so I said that I was going to go nowand said goodbye. SHe tried ringing bk but I turned phone off then and turned bk on this morning.

There are alot of trust issues because she has cheated before. I just don't know how to proceed. DO I break with her - after 8 years and she is my first real gf - I am 33 and she is 29. I am slightly worried about being left on the shelf and not meeting someone else but I know that is a silly view. Mostly I am woried about how I would feel if I break up and then see her with another guy and even worse having kids with the next man. Neither of us have kids but I am getting broody shall we say. But is it right toi stick with her and have a baby on the off chance it may heal wounds and bring us together. Probably not I'd say. I would just love people's opinions on this. I don't really know what to write back or say when I call. I can't just ignore her as perhaps that is childish but I am just standing up for what I think is right.

Thanks in advance.

[Silent Siren]

Please break up with this woman...she sounds just awful from your side. She's cheating on your and rubbing your face in it. That's even worse than at least trying to hide it from you. She's treating you like a doormat. But she's doing it because you are letting her. Break up with her...don't be friends with her...find someone new or go get your own life and hang out with some friends. Life is too short to waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you!

[DalM0m]

What are the reasons to stay so she can continue to insult you & cheat on you? You say you are afraid of being left on the shelf . . . you are already being left on the shelf by her. At least if you break up you can go out a try to meet new people.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Just stop answering. Don't give her a reason to smile. Pretend she's dead.

[FAndrews]

Wow how has this gone so long? , i had to do a double take when i read that it was 8 years, thought i had made a mistake and it read 8 years. get out while you can, and don't look back.

[michelle23]

I think you need therapy and im not saying that lightly. You are not staying because you love her, because shr makes you happy or because you two are good together. The only reason you are still there is because you fear change, fear being alone and are obviously quite insecure because you dont realize you can do better. So what if she moves on, meets someone new and gets married? So will you and hopefully, with therapy you will change your own level of self worth and face and conquer your fears so you never end up in such a dysfjnctional, miserable relationship again. You need to walk now and dont look back, you know its for the best and great things are out there waitjng for you once you grab life by the balls and face all your fears. You need to be strong now and just do it and never start a new relationship based on lonelieness, insecurity or fear. You need to find happieness first alone and then you will be ready to meet someone new and wonderful. Remember when you finally pull the plug, you have to mean every word and you have to make it clear to her. There is NO turning back once you do it. Stay strong and good luck x

Sent from my GT-I9505 using Tapatalk