She likes me but isn't sure...

[Ghostpowa]

Ok. I am new here, and I would simply love a bit of advice..

Alright, so here we go. I'll start with that I (the male) am 16, and my girlfriend is 14 years old.

I have some troubles with my girlfriend, who I've now been together with for 3 months. (our "anniversary" being today, the 15th)

Basically, we've had a really good relationship with only a few bumps and we've been able to get through every problem we've had so far, this week too, everything was ok, we only meet on weekends since we are both kind of young. The weekend before this one and this week's monday, everything was fine.

Suddenly, on tuesday, she acted weird and didn't respond as she usually does to my "sweet" messages. She had told me that she would send in a question to a youth's asking forum, I knew which forum it was so I checked it a couple times to see if I could figure out what she'd ask, ofc I didn't ask him what it was.

Anyway so this tuesday, she asked me what I'd do without her... I basically said that I'd have a really boring life and do nothing really.. just sit at home playing games I suppose. I asked her she said the same kind of thing except for playing games..

Later that day, I checked the forum, I saw a question with the title: "....?". I thought the contents of the question fit together with her and her personality far too well, and eventually I figured out it was she who had written it. The "question" she had sent in said:

"Hey. Here are some short but important questions. How do you know if you should break up or not? I mean we like eachother etc, but sometimes it just feels like my feelings have faded. I think he likes me more than I like him. Sometimes I just wish I was "free"... what should I do?"

I was heartbroken after I read this. I asked her the same day, if she had written it. She lied and said no. I asked her again the day after, when she asked me what was wrong when I was feeling a bit down. This time she gave no direct answer, she didn't answer at all infact she just sent alot of dots. I asked her if she thinks it's something that will pass (how she feels/felt), she said "mm.... maybe..".

I told her that it'd be best if we didn't see eachother or chat for about a week or so, to have a "break" and see how she feels after some time... She agreed.

The day after, she sent me a text saying "sry.... I find this really tough... I miss you alot... I understand if you don't want to see me nor talk to me... you don't have to forgive me...." I texted her back saying: "I want to take you back fully, but I can only do that if you are sure you like me and want to stay together with me." To which she replied: "I like you 100%, it's just that right now I'm not sure if I want to be together with you or not... it's like I really WANT to yet not..."

(just to remind you this was all on chat. We haven't seen eachother since last weekend when everything was fine.)

After a small chat, asking her what she wants to do etc.. we agreed to have another "break" and not talk until atleast saturday or sunday (2-3 days), and then she'll come here and we'll speak things through...

I feel like I have contributed and tried my best to save our relationship, it just feels like she doesn't care anymore... I really like this girl more than I've ever liked any girl before... I don't know what to do if she breaks up, I'll get over her but still though I have a feeling she might regret it, knowing how easily she "misses" me etc...

I'd really appreciate some advice.. this got a bit messy but I hope there's someone out there who cares enough to read all of this, if there's something anyone wonders about don't hesitate to ask!

Regards.

[Ghostpowa]

I just realised this may have been put in the wrong category, any mod who wants to move it feel free to.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Just break up with her. If she sees you as a bitch who will sit around an wait, then you're completely toast and have no shot. Cease all contact.

[Ghostpowa]

Just break up with her. If she sees you as a bitch who will sit around an wait, then you're completely toast and have no shot. Cease all contact.

I guess you're right.. I do like her alot though.. I mean I'll just have to tell her that she has to make up her mind or it'll be over..

thx for the response...