Originally Posted by
Bustamove
We've lived together for a few years and I told him I'd get an abortion if I ever got pregnant. He doesn't want kids now.
Now I'm pregnant, changed my mind about abortion, and he needs to respect my decision.
He says that we should make the decision together but there is no decision for him to make now: he knew the consequences of sex and now he needs to man up and support me in whatever decision I make. If I want to have the kid, he needs to be there for it and stop being selfish. If for some reason I decide to have an abortion, that's my decision too.
He says he'll pay child support and visit on the weekends but that he can't live me with because I'm not considering his input. Isn't that very selfish of him to say? I mean there is a kid now to consider and he still wants to act like a child and break up over this. Plus he's almost 40! How much longer is he going to wait to have a child??
You've changed your mind about something really important to him. You've cut him out of all the decision making. You've forced fatherhood on a man who told you he doesnt' want kids. You call him selfish and say he's acting like a child. And you can't understand why he's moving out???
Hon, the world does not revolve around you and your decisions.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.