She is confused - Ex.

[Ghostpowa]

Hello.

I hope you take the time to read through all of this, could use a piece of advice.

Anyway so I'm 16, my ex girlfriend is 14. We broke up the weekend before this one (23rd today) because of her being unsure about whether she likes me or not.

She felt her feelings were fading, I thought we'd get through it but no we did not. She decided we should break up.

We did. I broke off all contact with her for me to easier get over her (we had been together for approximately 3 months and she was my first real girlfriend, I was her first boyfriend.) So I had blocked her on skype, deleted her on facebook etc.

Then I felt that I still wanted to atleast be friends with her, so I added her on facebook again, we chat etc, somehow we got into a discussion of whether she regrets breaking up so quickly, she said she does regret that she didn't try a bit more. I tried to convience her to try a bit more, because I still like her alot, and she said she'd think about it.

The day after, she texted me asking if she could come over, and saying that we could hang out and try to be friends etc. When she came to my place, it seemed like everything was good, she seemed normal again, like she used to be when we were together. So anyway I could tell pretty much immidiately by her bodylanguage that she still wanted something more than to just be friends, one thing led to another and I suddenly kissed her when we were sitting close and having a good time. She kissed back and everything felt like it used to be. She wasn't unsure at that very moment anymore. It was easy.


Now we're both really confused. I don't know if she still wants to give it a shot, or if we're just fooling around. She knows I like her alot, and she told me that she still has feelings for me but sometimes it feels like she doesn't. I have explained to her that this is just a phase almost every relationship goes through, when the "crush" feelings are over, and you develop a deeper kind of love instead of ("just") shallow feelings.

So I'm going to her place tomorrow, and we're gonna hang I guess, I don't know though if I should act like a friend or if I should still try to do my best to get her to want to give it another shot. Last time I saw her everything just sorta happened, she agreed it felt good and like it used to be, and said that she can only be her true self around me.

So I could really use some advice on what she's going through, what I should do and perhaps someone's experience in a similar matter... I thank anyone who comment this from the bottom of my heart and hope that someone actually has the patience to read all of this. Sorry for the long post.

Regards.

[michelle23]

Look your 16. Make all your mistakes now and learn from them. I do worry though that shes a little young. I hope at 14 shes not having sex.

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[Ghostpowa]

Look your 16. Make all your mistakes now and learn from them. I do worry though that shes a little young. I hope at 14 shes not having sex.

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Yes, I do know we're both young. But so what? This love isn't any more unreal than other. We're both very mature for our age, believe it or not, and no she's not.

And yes she is young, I guess alot of girls her age in relationships have these kind of "self finding" issues, where they don't know who they are yet etc and what they like. Anyway,

I just want some advice regarding our relationship, I don't need all this "live while you're young" talk, sorry but I've heard way too much of it...

Thanks though for the reply

[michelle23]

Ok sorry ill treat you like an adult. If she cant make up her mind and is having doubts already then there is bo future. I have a cousin her age and ive been that age and believe me she doesnt have a clue what she wants. Ive also been in a relationship at your age and when i look back now, i just think what a complete waste of 8 months of my life

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[smackie9]

At this age the age difference is huge. Despite how mature you both think you are, you are not. If you were you both would have parted ways properly and never contacted each other again. A 14 year old girl has the attention span of a nat. She will lose interest very quickly over and over again and she will latch onto someone new in no time. Yes it was just a make out sesh and nothing more. Young girls will feed off attention and that is all she was interested in.

Being friends is in no way useful remedy to get back with her. You are being a fool. What's going to happen when she starts to see another guy? You are best to go no contact and move on with your life.

[michelle23]

Yes ill just add again 14 is waaayyy tooo young for any sort of sex/physical intimacy. Your at an age (16) where you may feel emotionally ready but shes NOT. Please find a girl your own age and wait another year or too for sex but recognize this girl is still a child no matter how mature you think she is

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[smackie9]

You are just being stubborn because you are still in love with her. You know life is tough and you can't always get what you want. Relationships will come and go in your life, this one ended and so will the next and so on.....it's just the way it is.

[geauxfan504]

Michelle is right. Just go with it. Make your mistakes now. I'm twice your age and I should have made my mistakes back then.