Swan is just more sensitive than many of you. Probably because she's smarter than many of you. Smarter people tend to be more sensitive. Swan I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe you're around the wrong people too.
Swan is just more sensitive than many of you. Probably because she's smarter than many of you. Smarter people tend to be more sensitive. Swan I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe you're around the wrong people too.
bahahahhhahahhahha!. Sorry, couldn't help myself. She's can get past her sensitivity by not continuing in her current MO in dating. It's that simple. This is about being logical rather then general intelligence and where do you get from her posts thats she's more sensitive? What she's on about does not = sensitivity.
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“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
It's not. It's rude to tell someone on the internet that she's "so ugly on the inside." What's wrong with you people? You're just picking on her and you don't understand her either. It's not ugly to be sensitive and pensive. I've seen far uglier behavior on this thread than anything she had to say.
Thank you. Im a dick and proud with it !
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
My only thought is that I pity you.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
Yeah it does. She's hyper-sensitive about her looks, and probably hyper-sensitive about the emotions she experiences in love and loss. And she's capable of analyzing it logically and recognizing the outcome of most relationships. Those are all signs of giftedness / intelligence. Her behavior is not unusual for gifted people.
Then I echo BasilandTyme. I pity her (and you if you are thusly gifted) Key word in your post is "Hyper" that's not a good thing to be that way.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
I'm not sure what your pity is supposed to give but for me you may save it. Hyper in this instance just means "above average" ... she's not going to be able to limit her sensitivity / analytical tendencies, but she can probably channel it in more positive ways ... and hopefully she will find people more like her where it won't be as much a problem.
Yes, hopefully. Also, hopefully with the very insightful posters here on this forum, she will learn not to be so hyper about things and change her views and own personal insights that do nothing to get her past the things that are not working out for her.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
Actually, if you look carefully-- I clearly said to please debate/discuss the topic. And instead of reasonable philosophical or likewise answers, I started to again get attacked. My opinion is supposed to change by being called ugly and negative? Your pity doesn't help me and I don't need it.
A lot of the posts just said I'm wrong. But I want reasons as to why. And I have reasons for my point of view, too. And I was trying to explain part of them clearly by clearing up what I meant. Yet it's taken as me trying to be right.
Yes, but those instances happen because those people managed to satisfy each other's selfish needs--not because the love was permanent or real--permanence is an illusion. I don't feel secure because people change and I cannot predict how my partner will change-whether more in line with what I can give them--or farther away from something that is compatible.
So for me the challenge is to become ok with loss and to stop getting attached, I can't take it anymore. It's emotionally draining and it's killing my will to go on. If I somehow manage to stop being afraid of the fact that we are all alone, I'll be able to detach. Even writing this, I can't really accept it yet =(
And my whole point with this thread's original post is this:
Maybe the reason I (and many others) get attached and obsessed over relationships is because we look to them to save us from the existential reality and hope they will provide us with a fairy tale. By projecting our hopes we start to believe the relationship is really that amazing -- and so everything else fails in comparison to it because it (falsely and temporarily) fills the big void/the only true self-created need.
But if I somehow manage to accept that no relationship will ever make me feel safe in the world and that I'll always be alone, then I won't have a reason to get attached and so will not be all ga-ga over every guy that I really like. =/ =(