I don't want to have kids. I like my freedom, and I don't think that there is any "higher" reason to have children.
Other than being abstinent, I know the best way to ensure this is to get a vasectomy and store some of my sperm at a sperm bank in case I ever did want to have kids (and there are other options besides a sperm bank including reversal or extraction procedures in case I did want to have kids).
However, this is an expensive procedure and though I am leaning strongly towards getting it done, I haven't yet.
So in the meantime, I have two approaches I think should minimize as much as possible the chances of getting a girl pregnant if I'm intimate with her.
1. Oral only. Rather than have vaginal intercourse, we would do everything but, so to speak. 69, blowjobs, cunnilingus, and perhaps even anal sex. Though I would really want to have vaginal sex with a girl I was into and intimate with, I could deal with this either temporarily or for a longer term. However, would she be willing to take this approach? Women on here, what would you think if a guy suggested this to you?
2. Multiple forms of birth control. She is on birth control, everytime we have sex I wear a condom. I never cum inside her, but always pull out. I have the morning after pill on standby in case of any mistakes.
Does anyone know how secure the second approach is? I know condoms are about 95-98%, and BC taken properly (never can tell if that is the case) is about 99.9%, and pulling out should add a bit to it as well.
I guess it comes down to trusting your partner too. If she says she would not want to have a child if something happened, then you'd have to decide to believe her or not. I just can't help but remember that recent thread on here though where the chick was dating a guy who didn't want kids, she agreed that if anything happened she'd get an abortion, and then once she got pregnant she renegged ... so basically you ultimately can only trust yourself in this and it would be nice if there were a form of BC for men other than a vasectomy.
But anyway, ladies, what do you think about this? Would option #1 (oral only) bother you? Let's say you weren't on BC for whatever reason.