What Annoyed you today

[vashti]

Don't worry, my love life is still very good, I might even get engaged soon. Christmas is coming, and I'm worrying about my father. Besides I have kind of motivation fall, I'm trying to fight it, but am losing.

Motivation comes and goes, unless you are inherently lazy, and I don't think you are. I hope your father is healthy?

I want to see you marry Superman.

[hatesthis]

That I got no phone call or text asking if I was doing ok, and some form of kindness of time spent in the relationship and treat me as a friend at least. Hard not to pick up a phone and call because I still love them and that is what you do when you love someone you talk your issues out, you don't run away and hide.

[Petit Papillon]

Motivation comes and goes, unless you are inherently lazy, and I don't think you are. I hope your father is healthy?

I want to see you marry Superman.

We probable will, but not until I finish my university We are now almost 5 years together, and he's one of those few very sure things in my life. No dramas, no downs. Whether we spend a year together or a year as in ldr, that i'm not even considering ldr, cause we see each other that often. His mother would like him to marry me already hahaha, but for practical reason, it would complicate some things for me, like health insurance, scholarship at university etc. But I am almost sure to get some very pretty ring very soon ))
As to my father, it's the time of the year when he's getting a bit depressed and isolated... We have now problem with him because he wants to spend Christmas alone, and I really want him to come and spend it together with everybody in Germany... I don't want him to stay alone, because it might make him get really worse, he shouldn't be alone when he's having his episode back... Sometimes he forgets to eat, or forgets things, like leaving something cooking etc... And I don't want him to be there alone for Christmas, I won't be able to enjoy it there while thinking of him. It's complicated... I'm now trying to make a plan how to make him come... I might even blackmail him or something... But then again he can react in few different ways... And this would be the first Christmas ever that he would spend alone, and I really don't know what to expect.

[vashti]

We probable will, but not until I finish my university We are now almost 5 years together, and he's one of those few very sure things in my life. No dramas, no downs. Whether we spend a year together or a year as in ldr, that i'm not even considering ldr, cause we see each other that often. His mother would like him to marry me already hahaha, but for practical reason, it would complicate some things for me, like health insurance, scholarship at university etc. But I am almost sure to get some very pretty ring very soon ))
As to my father, it's the time of the year when he's getting a bit depressed and isolated... We have now problem with him because he wants to spend Christmas alone, and I really want him to come and spend it together with everybody in Germany... I don't want him to stay alone, because it might make him get really worse, he shouldn't be alone when he's having his episode back... Sometimes he forgets to eat, or forgets things, like leaving something cooking etc... And I don't want him to be there alone for Christmas, I won't be able to enjoy it there while thinking of him. It's complicated... I'm now trying to make a plan how to make him come... I might even blackmail him or something... But then again he can react in few different ways... And this would be the first Christmas ever that he would spend alone, and I really don't know what to expect.

If he is prone to depression during the holidays, it is best if you can get him to join you. Can you not just tell him that you won't be able to enjoy the holiday while you are worried about him? (That would work for me.)

What annoyed me today: the jackass I was seeing for 2.5 years, who abandoned me while my daughter was in the hospital to chase after his drunken, slutty ex-wife (who left him for another man) called a mutual friend, and said he was wanting to call me to see if he could come to my house for Thanksgiving dinner. (WTF?!!) Our mutual friend told him that he probably shouldn't, because the new man I am dating was coming. :mad

[Petit Papillon]

If he is prone to depression during the holidays, it is best if you can get him to join you. Can you not just tell him that you won't be able to enjoy the holiday while you are worried about him? (That would work for me.)

What annoyed me today: the jackass I was seeing for 2.5 years, who abandoned me while my daughter was in the hospital to chase after his drunken, slutty ex-wife (who left him for another man) called a mutual friend, and said he was wanting to call me to see if he could come to my house for Thanksgiving dinner. (WTF?!!) Our mutual friend told him that he probably shouldn't, because the new man I am dating was coming. :mad

Well my Dad is not like everyone else... I tried to beg him already, I was even crying on the phone, and it wasn't working... I would probably need to drug him and kidnap him, to make him come... And yes, I am considering it too.

About the guy Vash, it made me like giggle, what a douche lol. Was he looking for a free dinner or something? I don't know the whole story, but one thing is sure, this guy is not worth a second thought Looks like older guys aren't always smarter

[asdfg789]

What annoyed me today: the jackass I was seeing for 2.5 years, who abandoned me while my daughter was in the hospital to chase after his drunken, slutty ex-wife (who left him for another man) called a mutual friend, and said he was wanting to call me to see if he could come to my house for Thanksgiving dinner. (WTF?!!) Our mutual friend told him that he probably shouldn't, because the new man I am dating was coming. :mad

there are plenty of people who don't appreciate good people until it is too late (I know a few myself). and this one doesn't deserve you.

[vashti]

there are plenty of people who don't appreciate good people until it is too late (I know a few myself). and this one doesn't deserve you.

Thank you. I know what you say is true, and it makes me feel twice as stupid that it still hurts.

I am actually thinking of cutting ties with this friend of mine, despite the fact that I love her in so many ways, because she just can't stop giving me updates about what my ex says to her and her husband (he always asks about me and my daughter, what I am up to, how her health is, he cares about us, etc.). I feel like the scab is being continually picked at, and even though I have asked her to stop, she has a big mouth, and can't seem to help herself. I think she believes I will feel better knowing that he still thinks of me.

Do you think it unwise to ask him directly (via email) to quit asking about us?

Well my Dad is not like everyone else... I tried to beg him already, I was even crying on the phone, and it wasn't working... I would probably need to drug him and kidnap him, to make him come... And yes, I am considering it too.

It's awful that he can't manage to get out of his own head long enough to see what he is doing to his family. He must be severely depressed. I am sorry you are dealing with this; it must be so hard for you. Is there no family nearby to spend time with him? The holidays can be so isolating...

[Petit Papillon]

It's awful that he can't manage to get out of his own head long enough to see what he is doing to his family. He must be severely depressed. I am sorry you are dealing with this; it must be so hard for you. Is there no family nearby to spend time with him? The holidays can be so isolating...

He has schizophrenia, he was diagnosed with it many years ago, but he is doing fine most of the time. He doesn't even take medications. I know he hears voices, but he still manages to have quite normal life, mostly because nobody is treatening him like someone sick. He's working and so on. Just it happens once per year or two years that he has this episode, when he thinks too much and is isolating himself. You can then talk to him and he doesn't hear you. I am afraid it might happen now and that's why I am worrying about him. It's not like he's going to do something to himself intentionally, but when he has it, he forgets many things, like eating or that he put something to cook etc. It won't be possible to bring him to a doctor, because he really doesn't want it. Besides I know how those pills work, and I don't want him to become a robot without any feelings. A friend of his is sometimes coming by, and he also has it and takes medications, and it doesn't help at all. He actually behaves very weird, so I really don't want my father to be like this. When those episodes happen, we always just wait, we talk to him and try not to leeave him in his own world and after few weeks it passes. We planned to have all family here in Germany this year, he even agreed, but then he started to refuse to come... As always anyway... Family... He has 3 older sisters 35km away, but they never cared about him, they are just there when they need something. So it really makes no sense to even contact them. My sisters in law family offered to invite him for christmas eve, but he also refuses, even though he used to visit them in te past without a problem. I am probably the one who has the most influence on him, because I am the youngest and he always treats me like "his best one". But when he gets fixed on some idea, then it's really hard to convince him. I will still try to convince him somehow, maybe I will even blackmail him, that if he doesn't come, I won't talk to him. I really don't know what else I could do...
It would be hard for me to go to Poland for Christmas, because I planned to go on 26th to my bf's family in France, as this year we will be apart for christmas, so I wanted to spend at least the second day of christmas with him. It will be really difficult for me... One of my brothers said he would go with his wife and kid on 25th to Poland, so my father wouldn't have to be alone that long, but still those few days before christmas and christmas eve would be enough to make him feel bad.

[Petit Papillon]

And Vash, about your situation. I would just leave it be. It's like we always say here, no contact is no contact... If you contact him even to tell him to stop doing all those things, he will see that you still care and he will insist even more. Imagine my ex, this very bad one, tried to contact me this year twice already, but I just ignored it, because I know that he would start writing even more, and I don't need the drama lama right now. This wouldn't be only not fair to my Superman, but it would be unfair to myself. He made my life so much worse and only after so many years I manage to be finally happy with my life, or myself. It would be stupid to allow him to talk to me. I said to myself back then that he is dead for me, and I treat him as someone who's dead now and doesn't exist. I think you should do the same thing, it will make you feel better in time. It also took me some time to really get over him, so if you still feel hurt about it, then you really shouldn't talk to him.
What will happen in some time is that you will feel indifferent, and then you will not even feel the need to talk to him or to ask him anything or to explain him anything. Think of him as someone who is dead. If your friend doesn't understand that you really want to cut the contact with him, then you should probably stop talking to her as well. For your sake, you know?

You know, I wanted to respond to him first. To tell him how much better off I am that he is gone and how good my life is, that I met someone who really really loves me over everything and that I can bet my both arms and legs, that he would never do something bad to me (yes, I am that sure). But I didn't. Simply because he is not worth it. He only earned my indifference, which is probably the worse thing you can get.
So if he really hurt you, then this will be probably the best revenge you can get, to cut the contact completely and for ever. And I am sure you will eventually find some awesome guy, because you are honestly some HOT "pancake" and you are a good person. Just next time you meet someone new, give him a try Even if you will feel like you're not ready. Sometimes you just need to go with the flow

[asdfg789]

Thank you. I know what you say is true, and it makes me feel twice as stupid that it still hurts.

I am actually thinking of cutting ties with this friend of mine, despite the fact that I love her in so many ways, because she just can't stop giving me updates about what my ex says to her and her husband (he always asks about me and my daughter, what I am up to, how her health is, he cares about us, etc.). I feel like the scab is being continually picked at, and even though I have asked her to stop, she has a big mouth, and can't seem to help herself. I think she believes I will feel better knowing that he still thinks of me.

Hey, I had the same problem with an ex that was clearly no good for me. But it took me a long time before I no longer hurt.
It's normal for people who are geniunely in love with the other person.

And I agree with PP, leave it alone. Don't communicate with him in any way.

[Rowen]

Today, I was annoyed by the Bursar's Office at my college. Since they're in charge of the financial aid and all, I had to tell them ONCE AGAIN (3rd time) that I wanted to alter my loans. :S

[Petit Papillon]

Sore throat... I'm going to be sick ;_; I hate to be sick when I have a lot of important things to do ...

[hatesthis]

Think I know who, friend has them on facebook

[3mK]

What annoyed me today? I ran out of smokes. What annoyed me more was that I went out and bought a second pack. Yea... this is after having been smoke free for over a year. Hurray for the never ending craving.

[NoGoodAtLove]

My hair looks like shit. Male Pattern baldness is such a bitch. My only physical attribute I'm remotely troubled by.