Today is my BF birthday and he isn't speaking to me. We just became a couple but we havent talked too much about but he isnt sleeping with anyone else (he isn't supposed to be) and neither am I and we are very closer then normal friends. We act like a couple so thats why I say BF. I say this because the other day, I asked him how would he feel if I slept with someone else (which I wasn't planning to do but I wanted his thoughts on it) and he said, "Chloe, be quiet. Don't be silly". It wasn't in a mean tone but more on the lines of, "You already know how I would feel about that" I am sure he is mad at me over a problem we had this weekend. I really would like some male input about what he may be thinking or what would you be thinking about this.
Saturday, my boyfriend calls me and tells me that he isn't going to have the house party that he planned to have for his birthday. He said he wanted to save some money and decided that he and all of his friends would just go out to the club. Here's how our conversation went. He said, "I'm going to so and so tonight". I said, "Oh are you? Well you must want me to come". He said, "Yeah. I have a lot of female friends that are coming". (I felt a twinge of jealousy and sort of categorized at that point. I felt as if, so tonight you're going to have all your female friends there and you want to make it clear we aren't official or are you warning me) I said, "Well, I'm not going then". He said, "Why? I"m going to have a lot of guy friends there also". I said, "No. I had other plans anyway". He said, "Alright" and hung up on me. I knew he was upset and so was I so I didnt reach out to him until later that evening. I sent him a text and said, "Hey". No reply. So later that night, I decided to get dressed and head to the club I knew he planned to go to. I thought about it and felt maybe I was being a bitch so decided to surprise him and show up. I tried calling him and got no answer. I then sent a few texts. I didn't see his car but the parking lot was crowded. I didnt want to pay to go in by myself and he not be there. I tried to reach him and he was clearly ignoring me so I went home.
Today is his birthday and I tried calling him several times and texting him wishing him a happy birthday and he is still ignoring me. I feel bad because now I feel as if my presense was very important to him and he is disappointed in how I was acting and that I didn't show up for something as special as his birthday. I normally do whatever I can to make him happy and I feel as if he should at least talk to me considering how good I usually am to him. He is really mad at me. He is not replying to me at all.
I will admit that I have jealousy and trust issues. (I was mistreated, cheated on and abused in my previous relationship) I admit that I can be all about myself sometimes. Truth is, I didn't want his female friends that he possibly slept with or had something going on with in my presense. I didn't last night and I still don't. He is a very social, attractive, charming and friendly guy, so I knew he would have socialized with them and I wouldn't have liked that.
I just need some male perspective here. Do you all think that he is over with me? Is he maybe ignoring me to put our relationship in perspective? What could he be thinking? I really miss him. and I want to talk to him. Ladies your input is welcome to. Did I over react? I really felt a certain way when he said, lots of his female friends would be there. I felt categorized as if he wanted to make it aware we wasn't official or is he was just telling me what was going on and it wasn't intentional. I just don't know. Advice needed.
I was thinking about riding to his place, which is in another city about 40 minutes away. 20-25 for me. I want to take him his gift and talk to him. I know he will be upset if I drop in unannounced. We had a talk about this and he said if I ever did that, he would let me in but I would hear his mouth over it. He said that before we were dating but now we are on a different level and maybe he feels differently. What is going on with him? What can I do about it?