So I'm coming to realize I guess on a more emotional level what many of you have mentioned and I understood intellectually for awhile, and that is, that girl I've been writing about is never going to leave her long term boyfriend to date me.
One thing I don't understand though, and would like to because I like to understand things, is, why would a girl who has a boyfriend and does NOT intend to leave him spend months with you (including plenty of flirtatious behavior) while strategically omitting the fact that she has a boyfriend? I mean, not just not not mentioning him, but referring to him as "that guy you met" instead of "my boyfriend, whom you met?"
I'd like to know because as I said, I like understanding things, but also because I think if she had just told me about her boyfriend upfront, I never would have developed feelings for her. But she did all these things to encourage me to develop feelings for her for and to form a bond.
Please spare me the "why are you still wasting your time thinking about this girl" comments. I do get that. I like to understand things as much as I can, and though I have my own idea about why she would do all this, I'd like to hear what other women think. I think understanding it will actually help me move on.