Really like her but she is hesitant.

[blueboy]

I see a woman at an evening job a do a one or two days a week. Like me she has been there a couple of years though I have felt some thing about her that I really like for over a year. I have been seperated for over two years and always hoped I would get together with my wife though that has not happened and will not now so I have dealt with that I think. I think this woman has some feelings for me too, lets say it's just in the air as she has never given any come on signs at all, in fact she does the opposite and at times moves away from me. Like if we are parking our cars at the same time, and she knows me to chat to, she would walk away rather than see me and wait or hang for a moment to walk in together whilst talking. I always thought it odd as she is friendly if a little shy and I have other colleagues both male or female that would walk into work whilst having a chat.

Recently I made a move and thought, " I just have to ask what her situation is and if she would like to go out." She wears wedding rings so I knew she was married though some had told me she was seperated with two near grown up kids. I told her she was so sweet and an attractive woman and that I'd love to take her out. She went on to tell me she had a complex family situation, that her husband was from the middle east and that she'd have to move abroad if she was to be with someone. I think the wider family drom the middle east are also involved in her life too with very fix attitudes about women. She went on to say that her kids would probably come to deal with it...implying her husband would not. he lives about twenty miles away. She also said he had had an affair during their marriage. From backing off at the beginning of the conversation she had moved closer on my intentions by the end. I said that we could go out and it would not be where she would bump into anyone from our jobs etc. Not to put pressure on her, she has her kids to stay over quite often I think I thought I would give her some space and rather than me call her which could be difficult in terms of timing I offered my phone number which she took and said she would call me. Well the call never came and we have seen each other at work since but not raised it fully, me with a joking tear, thats all. So what do I do, she seems trapped and worried about her husband ever knowing which is why I guess she keeps a distance from a person like me that she might have feelings for. But she is a lovely woman and I think she does lots for her kids like a good mother but is not taking up something good for herself. As I said, there is something in the air between us...but I am worried about frightening her off if I am too bold....dismissive of the sensitive situation she is in. I am quite a careful and thoughtful guy so am understanding of situation. But would like to date this woman and make her feel special.

[DalM0m]

Let it be. Do not bring it up again. You made your intentions clear. Even if you don't understand her marital situation, it is preventing her from dating you. Respect that. Move on.