Why won't she reply?

[Chlorine]

Musiclover-----That's a spot-on piece of advise. OnlyVirgins are you taking notes?

[Only-virgins]

OV... pardon me for being dense but I'm confused, you said you gave her the letter but then you said you couldn't tell her in person because you didn't have the opportunity. So did you mail it? 'Cause if you did, you know how the post office is... Regardless, you have to be patient. Think about how much time you put into that letter, it may take her a while to respond. Letting you know she got it may not be all she wants to say. I would say 2 weeks from the day she read it max. If I got a letter like that there are a few options... the first thing I would do would be to pull out my yearbooks and make sure I was remembering the right person. Then, if it was someone I did remember as being nice or, at least knew had a decent reputation, I would have to sit on it for a few days to let it sink in before I decided on a course of action. If I did want to respond, it would take me a few more days to figure out what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it. If I wasnt interested I would be careful about my reply out of respect for you. I would not just send you a note saying I received your letter but no thanks. This is a delicate situation so I would want to ensure I was direct with you while maintaining respect. No one wants to feel like they've been blown off so I would not want you to think I had put no thought into the situation.
If I was into it, that would take a while too, as you know, it's hard to put yourself out there emotionally to anyone let alone someone you met once.
Now another option is, if I totally had no recollection of you at all in any way, I would probably ignore it since I would have no idea what I may be getting myself into.
Lastly, if I did have negative memories associated with you then I would also ignore it. 7 years is a long time and I would not want to renew an association with someone who I either did not remember or who had left a bad impression in my mind.
Sorry this was so long and I hope it helps.

I know how the post office works and that is not how I got the letter to her. I dont want to get into how I got her the letter. Believe me when I say that I had no opportunity to do it face to face....

Why wouldn't you at least tell the person that you got the letter? even if you have to say that you do not remember them? just to tell them you got it specially if it says in the letter to let them know. You could have even have bad memories but just let the person know ...don't you think that in my situation I deserve at least to know that?

What option is left if you remember the person, liked the person, but did not know their personality to much or had the chance to meet them well?

Im not looking for a relationship with her...I all-ready know she has a boyfriend at least. I just want an answer that she got it ....jeez.

[ALovelyLady86]

Ok this is really getting old. I'm sorry but Tom this is pathetic. We are trying to give you all the advice we can and you keep asking the same questions over and over. Just accept it and get over it! I'm sorry but this is getting annoying.

[Kiechi]

As much as I hate to agree with LoveleyLady, it's true. Your asking us questions we don't possess the answers to. We don't know when she'll reply or why she is taking "so long" to do so as you put it. To me, 3 days is nothing. How about you get up, give yourself a shake, get a job, go to college and then worry about her. Far as I care I couldn't give 2 shits if you get the letter or not. Not because I don't "like" you, not because I don't "care" not because I'm just being plain "spiteful", the reason is your fighting for a cause you know yourself you have no chance of winning.

It was 7 damn years ago. If you ask me it's a obsession. It's not love it's simply an obsession. I doubt she'll even remember you. So how about you get up give yourself a f***ing shake and do something with your life. There are people out there who would love the chance to go get an eductaion, to make something of themselves, but sadly... they are either too poor or refused the privledge to do so. You have this chance and you crying over a little girl you knew 7 years ago who barely knows you. I doubt if she walked by you in the street she'll recognise you. How about you get up and grow up.

[musiclover]

Yeah at this point I am a bit annoyed as well... All the questions you asked me are answered in my post. I spent a lot of time on that last night and you didn't even read it? If she has a boyfriend you never should have sent the letter in the first place. It's totally disrespectful to both of them. I am starting to get the impression you are one of those people who needs to have some sort of drama in their life to keep their mind off other things. What's really going on here??? You should chew on that for a while.
This will be my last post on this thread because it is clear that no matter what anyones says, you are not going to heed the advice or make any attempts to move on. I feel like my time has been wasted and our efforts to assist you are not appreciated.

[Kiechi]

He's far too stubborn to care.

[ALovelyLady86]

Ok guys lets not team up on him... this is getting too mean. But yes I guess what we're saying Tom is that we've given you all the advice we can. We all want the best for ya and we think the best thing you could do for yourself is to get a job, get an education and make something of yourself.
Say, lets JUST say, this girl does write back and shes desparately in love with you. What could you offer her? People like to have that sense of security. If you have nothing but yourself to offer you dont have enough. I know that sounds bad but honey its true.
Keichi is right about one thing. It is so hard for people to get an education and if you do have the opportunity please take it I've had what youd call a hard knock life lol and at this point I'm looking into any kind of financial aid I can get... I've heard nothing but bad news from 2 colleges so far, but I'm not going to give up.. onto the next college! Sometimes life takes a little push... can you do that?

[Kiechi]

Ok guys lets not team up on him... this is getting too mean. But yes I guess what we're saying Tom is that we've given you all the advice we can. We all want the best for ya and we think the best thing you could do for yourself is to get a job, get an education and make something of yourself.
Say, lets JUST say, this girl does write back and shes desparately in love with you. What could you offer her? People like to have that sense of security. If you have nothing but yourself to offer you dont have enough. I know that sounds bad but honey its true.
Keichi is right about one thing. It is so hard for people to get an education and if you do have the opportunity please take it I've had what youd call a hard knock life lol and at this point I'm looking into any kind of financial aid I can get... I've heard nothing but bad news from 2 colleges so far, but I'm not going to give up.. onto the next college! Sometimes life takes a little push... can you do that?

Only right with 1 thing? ...pfft.

[ALovelyLady86]

hahahahaha

[Only-virgins]

How come you people make it sound like someone FORCES you to click on the thread. I read your entire post musiclover...I answered exactly what I thought. It seems like people just got tired and went into their jack ass mode. Hey Kiechi, my job has nothing to do with it. I don't need to "grow" up...don't make this into some lame maturity battle.

If mods have the ability they should close the thread now then.

[LightOn]

OV,

You're only option is to...

Send another letter, if you get no response, send another and another untill you get a response.....Don't give up....ever.

Don't make reasons why you can't send another, I mean from your persepctive you have every reason to send more.....She hasn't replied to you so obviously she hasn't recieved it....right?

[Kiechi]

OV,

You're only option is to...

Send another letter, if you get no response, send another and another untill you get a response.....Don't give up....ever.

Don't make reasons why you can't send another, I mean from your persepctive you have every reason to send more.....She hasn't replied to you so obviously she hasn't recieved it....right?

Don't encourage a losing battle.

[LightOn]

Don't encourage a losing battle.

I think the alternative is the only way OV will accept defeat

[Only-virgins]

She hasn't replied to you so obviously she hasn't recieved it....right?

Thats what I am thinking.

[Prodigal]

Only-virgins, you keep pointing towards the possibility of her not receiving it. If that is the case, then what is your course of action?