Hi there,
I don't usually post anonymously on forums asking for advice on love... but I'm really stuck. Just a week ago I returned from working ten weeks in Cape Town, South Africa. I live in the UK, and knew I was only going for a relatively short time and had to come back. I met someone while out there, and the relationship developed pretty quickly. We never officially dated because I always had to leave and neither of us knew what life would be like after my return. I saw him several times a week and we went out places a lot. He gave me gifts, items of his own clothing, and sang. Towards the end of my trip, I was devastated that I had to leave, and he was too. He cried the night before I left, and came to the airport too. When I arrived back in the UK, he called me and told me he loves me, but I wasn't sure how to interpret it.
But then something really shocking happened. A few days later he told me he had started seeing someone else. There was a girl he had been messaging a bit while I was still there, and I knew but he told me he doesn't like her. When we talked about it just yesterday, he told me he met her because I had left and he couldn't bring himself to wait and believe that I'd be back for him. He also used it to figure out how strong my feelings for him are, and realised he'd made a mistake. Now I just don't know what to do. I think he still doubts the ability for him to maintain a long distance relationship, and will likely still see this girl (whether or not he tells me about her.) But me... I'm just incredibly hurt. I don't know if I can trust him anymore, or whether or not I actually want him in my life. It's so painful, and thinking about cutting him out forever makes it worse.
I'd appreciate any advice or thoughts!
Thanks,
LL x