I just joined the forum and have a little bit of info about me in the introduction forum. I got my first gf at 31. I am now on my second about 3months in.
I really don't know what kind of past is "normal". The first gf was no doubt the "good girl" The current one however...The first date felt like a booty call.
We talked online a little I asked for her number. I called her,she came to my place. I really liked her. She was a nerd like me I went in for a kiss and ended up having sex with her that night. She asked what I wanted and I said I was looking for a ltr. She was looking for the same. I asked her if she wanted to spend the night. She did and she laid her head on my chest and held me as if she was never going to hold a loved one again. What I felt was loved and that she was very lonely. I will add that she I read trouble.
I wanted to see her again asap but she had a date the next night. I had a date set up the next night. However the date with the other guy ended up being a bad one. She texted me late at night and she asked if she could spend the night. Although I knew better I said yes. She arrived crying and said he was "broken". I suspected since this was the second date with the guy that she may have had sex with him but I let it go.
I was infatuated with her. I imagine this is what teenagers feel. It was new to me. On the 3rd or 4th date I told her whats mine is mine and I do not share. She was reluctant,she was the most popular she had ever been. We have not been a single day apart since the 1st date.
She was in love with me but a devorce and later a ltr with a man with aspergers made her jaded. It took a few rough weeks,maybe a month to get her to really let her guard down and I won't lie I did some pretty damn chump stuff to get her past it. We are now doing well. Sex is daily sometimes a bit over. She can't wait to see me and I am sure would marry me if I asked. She even spent 2 days with me doing nasty hard work just to be with me. She has said that she does not deserve me.
Now the bad. Before she met me she did give up on having a real relationship and had been having onenight stands. That date imbetween our first and second she did have sex with the guy or atleast attempted that night either way she had sex with him previously. This is not sitting well with me! Her total number of partners is 19 (first was a rape at 15years old)this sounds high to me but I don't know the norm for a 38 year old woman. I also suspect a pill problem. I confronted her on this and have not seen her high on anything since.
That's all I feel like writing for now! Any input good or bad is welcome. I know that perfect isn't out there but I want to know what is. I really am a noob in the dating world. Also any questions are welcome but please don't attack.