Hi,
I need a new perspective on a current problem I�m facing with my partner.
We have been together for 3 and a half years, We met on a dating site, We have a child together and have been living together for over 2 years.
The first time I saw evidence of a potential problem was 2 years ago, I went on our iPad to check my email and found his Facebook open and a conversation with a woman whom he met a few months before me on the same dating site. They talked about the things they wanted to do to each other and agreed to meet up at a hotel in the city near his work, however I saw it before they had the chance. I confronted him and he cried and said it would never happen again and that he loved me and couldn't loose me. i forgave him but never really trusted him.
six months later my mother and I took my then 8mo baby on a holiday for a week. The first night I was gone he went on craigslist and responded to an ad and sent her a picture of his privates, they also arranged to meet up but he cancelled at the last minuet.
I didn�t find out until a few months later and was devastated, we went on a short break but once again he seemed to be truly sorry and we slowly moved past it.
It's been over a year since that incident and we've been doing well but 2 days before Christmas I found a secret email account he had created and for the past two months has been posting and replying to different ads on craigslist, they talk about sex and what they want to do to each other (in great detail) and arrange to meet up but he always ends up cancelling at the last minuet.
I went to him and he didn�t try and deny it and answered any questions I had. He says he only does it for the thrill and he has never met up with anyone. He�s willing to go to couples counseling or whatever it takes to save us. Now I just don't know what to do, i can see we're in a vicious cycle but I love him and our little family. Do I leave and give up or stay and try again?!