Hey!
The thing is i've texted with this girl for months now. Yes, we haven't seen each other. Met in some dating site. We don't even live in the same country, in fact we live quite far away from each other. She is smart, interesting and and very beautiful (and yes, she's completely legitimate person, not some troll).
Now, the thing is. I'm into her romantically, but she claims she's not into me. I understand, and i've accepted it. She has had a rough history, she got dumped by a guy about half a year ago. They met IRL for the first time, but that guy was also from other country. For some time they had a great time, but according to her she got dumped (she says she's not sure why, or she doesn't want to explain, but okay). After that she opened a profile in some dating site where we met. She started the discussion with me.
She often textes me that she's sad and misses her ex. Me being friendzoned (as one would guess) i listen to her and try to give advice how to overcome him, but i feel a bit sad myself doing it as i'm into her. But the most important part for me creating this topic is she sometimes gets drunk and says exactly these words (direct quotes! and yes, she's a native english speaker): I would like you to cuddle me (cuddle? like in a solacing way?); Would you give me a kiss on the forehead while i prepare to go to sleep?; Would you like to nap with me? (Nap? Like a totally innocent way to say instead of sleep). Why is she using such vocabulary with me if she's allegedly not into me romantically. I mean maybe she's just pushing me back as we've never seen each other and she doesn't want to get intimate with me (yet)? She asks me all the time when will i fly there to meet her, but damn it costs over 1800 USD for a one-way ticket from here to there (here it's like a 2.5 month salary), and i would be quite disappointed if she just wants to hang out with me and maybe babble what kind of guys she likes and wants. Which it probably would be like...
So what do you think? What does she mean by these words? Do you think she might have a slight interest in me romantically? Or she's just using me as a temporary guy who to share stuff while she finds a new guy again? If so, i guess i'm gentleman enough to tolerate it and then eventually let our communication fade away naturally when she finds someone...
Also when we haven't texted for a couple of days, she asks me why i haven't talked to her, how she misses me so much. Okay, i get it. Girls like when guys text first and stuff.
I'm almost 25, she's 22 if that means anything.
Thanks for your input!
Edit: Reading other posts in this forum people mostly suggest an ultimatum, like saying to her you either kiss me or we have nothing further to say to each other. I think it wouldn't be fair and we haven't had that long a friendship for it? 2 months tops. Or...? And ultimately i wouldn't like to do any decision like this before i haven't met her personally and got to know her. I just would like to know why she uses such words with me (not all the time, ofc).