Speaking to her bf is a terrible idea. That has shitstorm written all over it. Are you addicted to drama?
I would either leave them be or tell her that you don't want to be in this situation anymore, knowing about her bf is weighing too heavily on you and unless she is willing to break up with him for you then you have to go your separate ways. Yes, you risk losing her but what you're doing now is eventually going to lose her anyway, you're just hanging on for dear life delaying the inevitable.
Of course, there is the fact of the matter that if she would do this to him she would probably do the same to you down the road. You don't want to believe it but you have yourself as evidence which is kind of hard to deny. And if you think that your love will transform her into a faithful girlfriend you are in for a terribly rude awakening with regards to human nature. These situations make for great fun with affairs and flings but they make for terrible long term relationships. Tread with caution here. Personally I would just move on and enjoy the memories we had together.
Now, whether you leave her or not you have to start keeping your emotions in check and exercising more self control than this. Failure to do so will ruin everything.
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Jay79
I know about her more then her bf knows. She told me things which can break up their relation. So she trusts me completely and I also trust her completely. She knows if I want I can easily create problems between them. Even after she said she wanted to be with him she tells me all her personal problems.
Yeah, that's just the sort of thing I would lie to a chick about in order to wrap her around my finger too.
They see indoctrination and they call it "morality", "professionalism", or "maturity" depending on the context.