Originally Posted by
sarahvintage56
hi i have been with my partner for 12 years now but for ten of these years he has been a drinker a liar and he has been violent to me on many occasions including breaking my nose and putting me in hospital twice but he only hits me when he is drunk so that is why i have stayed with him but recently he has recieved a 2nd drink drive ban which im having to cope with im having to do all the driving and i get nothing in return he speaks to me like im nothing like im just a slave he says he wants aafamily but we only have sex when he wants it in 12 years whenever ive asked for it he turn me down its always on his terms only anyway to cut along rant into something shorter y ex has got in touch he gets in touch once a year roughly since we split up as he worries about me and still feels for me and he is now in the navy and has his own house , good income and says he will drop everything to be with me after i recieved his message i said to my partner now shall we go for a afternoon walk with the dogs and he says no go yourself so you can see why im in a situation everytime my ex is sweet to me i see how nasty my partner is to me daily i feel trapped and im unsure what to do can anyone help x
Go to a woman's shelter and don't worry about anything else. If you go back to your ex you will be jumping right out of the frying pan into the fire. You need councelling and education and learn how to live on your own without a man.
Google for a woman's shelter in your part of the world and get yourself packed and out of there. Start working on getting over your codependency and inability to function as an independent woman.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion