Problems with my girlfriend of 3 years

[jjrock]

So I'm posting this because Im having a hard time communicating with my girl. Im 25 shes 22. We have been through a lot in the past 3 years a lot due to the situation she was in. She was living with her parents when I first met her but due to her family complications she left her home and was on the street. I had provided her with a place to stay and lots of finances. I decided to move closer to town this way she should live with me while she get back on her feet. We did this for a year and a half. Over the course of time her family up and left to Tennessee leaving all their belongings and their home. She had no money to be able to handle the expense of her apartment so I had 2 acquaintances of mine move into her apartment at an elevated price in rent. Her rent was 575 I had them pay 700 fully furnished. On a monthly basis for 1.5 years, I only accepted 200 dollars from her a month to cover for driving her to and from work everyday and handling her errands because she did not have a car. In this process I taught her how to balance her money, how to save money, how not to live paycheck to paycheck. I have provided for her with the utmost consideration. I found a car for her and negotiated a very cheap amount on the car. Ive redone her resume and set her up to obtain new positions that are more noteworthy then her original line of work. I've told her she was on her own since her family left her so I will help her get to the point where she can be stable to live live self sufficiently. I may not be the most romantic of men although I am extremely economic and financially adept to helping her obtain what she needs to maintain for her life. I love the girl, I love her company, her time and her love for me. She never asks me for money its always me who doesn't want her to suffer or doesn't want her to fall to hard and I help out with every expense or pay for it myself. I do this because I believe its my responsibility as her man to make sure she is financially capable to enjoy the life she should enjoy.

Mind you Im no angel either. I have my moments when I yell or I get offense during an heated discussion. A reaction causes a reaction and it takes two to tango. The problem I am having with my relationship is that I don't feel appreciated. I don't feel that I have a woman that is proud of her man or respects her man for all the hardwork he puts in. I think its natural for people to argue but to me its how you come out of that argument or how you settle that dispute is what matters. Whenever I try to approach her to settle a dispute I feel like Im not talking to my partner Im talking to an opponent. I dont know if shes bipolar or going through depression but her rage is ridiculous when trying to settle matters. She refuses to accept responsibility or see things from my point of view EVER. I have my faults im not perfect. When I sit her down to talk through our problem I analyze both points of views and I first take responsibility for my actions then in turn explain to her what caused me to react this way. For her its impossible to conversate at a normal level. Ive had People tell her that she stands on a soapbox when she speaks and its quite hurtful. She believes heavily in conspiracy theories and I dont. Though, Im aware of conspiracies and aware of unjust action within the US she will let these stories consume her. She has even told me she wanted to flee the country due to these stories. It makes me concerned. This past 10 days has been nothing but arguments and fights over the most childish and stupidest things and over conspiracy theories. I dont know how to communicate with her anymore but I want to. But when my partner, girlfriend, woman, wifepossiblytobe confronts me and attacks me from the standpoint of a male position as another male. There is bound to be a reaction. I know many men that would say if it was a male on the street that came at them on that level that person wouldn't leave that conversation the same way. But this is my girl we are talking about. Why am I the oppenent? how does what her friends say to her hold more value then what I say when I have been the SOLE provider for the past 3 years. Not one single friend helped her. They left her to rot. Im confused and dont know what to believe anymore.

I kind of aimlessly wrote this looking for advice I already apologize to those that think this is rambling but currently this is how I Feel.

[smackie9]

I know you are just venting and all but since you two are not getting along, and she isn't putting 100% into this relationship, and it's leaving you feeling unappreciated, my advice to you is to cut your losses and leave.

[TheEvilJester]

The only thing I can say here is your story reminds me a lot of my situation with the ex-wife. So, I think you know what my vote would be on how you should deal with this. It doesn't sound like you are appreciated, and more often than not, that means that will never change. Everybody deserves a partner who appreciates them. It sounds like you have done everything for this woman, and she still treats you like garbage. Sounds awfully familiar to me.

Now, I can't really know the whole truth behind the situation. Only you know that. Plus, you have to take my advice with a grain of salt. It is a bit biased since I've been through a similar situation. But, if you are truly being unappreciated, that doesn't tend to change. Good luck. I hope you are eventually able to find what you want in a girlfriend, be it with her or somebody else.