need help if different situation

[justwoundering]

hello, i am 26 years old. my mother and step dad have been married for about 20 years now... about 5 years ago we all (including my step dad) found out he has a daughter the same age as me.. now i have realized that i am in love with my new step sister and do not see her as a step sister at all. i am not sure as to what i should do or if i should do anything at all.. the big problem is that i am married and not happy but when i am with her i am happier then ever. any advice would be great weather it be bad or good advice. please help..

[Rowen]

I would say that you should not act on any feelings for the step sister... First of all, you are not even sure how she feels, and to find out would be classified as cheating even if no physical contact takes place. Second, you are married; as part of the agreement of marriage, you both agreed to stick by one another for better or for worse and at least try to work through your differences (try at least until you can't try anymore). Not to mention, she is part of your family...

If I were you, I would try to work through the issues you have with your wife. After all, you must have loved her to make her your wife, I am guessing. I'm sure that love is still there. It's only a matter of communicating and fixing what went wrong.

[bcgirl]

She's you step sister, imagine the hurt it will cause not only to your wife but your parents! They would never approve. Your parents will fight over it. This is just disaster