Is this girl worth any time at all?

[johnson0000]

we've been good friends on and off for a year, and recently started talking very often. anyway after hanging out with her a couple times and getting nothing even though she expresses desire to talk to me every day, i finally decided to just speak my and tell her how i felt.

she replied saying, "i definitely have feelings for you, i can't lie to you. but now is not the right time" and well as a lot of other sappy stuff which basically said the same shit. oh, she got out a multi year relationship about 3 months ago which is why she said it wasnt the right time.

so my question is, how should i deal with this? i havent talked to her since. i just told her i understand and left it there.

is she worth my time? its kind of frustrating that she left things so open ended.

as of now i think im just going to stop talking to her and hopefully forget about her. and who knows maybe she'll come back but not that im counting on it

thanks

[surfhb2]

is she worth my time? its kind of frustrating that she left things so open ended.

as of now i think im just going to stop talking to her and hopefully forget about her. and who knows maybe she'll come back but not that im counting on it

thanks

Frustrating How? She was straight forward......she's a pretty stand up person IMO

Your plan is perfect......I suggest you follow it

[3mK]

You have the right idea man. Forget about her for now. See what happens.

In the future I wouldn't suggest pouring out your feelings to some girl if you intend to date them/have a relationship. Take charge and tell her a girl you want to take her on a date.

[michelle23]

Well she just got out of a long term relationship so sounds like shes being smart telling you its not a good time and you should listen and move on

[DalM0m]

If you want her as a GF, no it's not worth your effort because she has already told you she only wants to be your friend. If you value the friendship, of course it's worth spending time with a friend but don't think doing so will eventually cause her to develop romantic feelings for you.

I'd be polite when you bump into her or when she reaches out but I wouldn't initiate contact because it's not going to get you want you want.

[johnson0000]

so last night at like 2am she texted me "can we be friends again?" and then proceeded to tell me that her old boyfriend had been with someone else while they were still dating...

i dont know what to do, i want to be friends with her but at the same time i feel like ill always see her as something more than that... and i feel bad ignoring her because i know she still wants to be friends...

[surfhb2]

You can be friends but only if it's possible to meet some of her friends since she has no interest in dating you

[DalM0m]

At 2 a.m. you were the easy convenient rebound guy. She was taking advantage of the fact that you like her. You may be able to parlay that into something else but at this point I can't tell if she likes you or just needs her ego stroked.

[anastasis]

Listen to me very carefully, because I want to give you a reality check. You have on average threescore and ten before it's all said and done. Not a lot of time. Read the writing on the wall--NO WOMAN IS WORTH ANY OF YOUR TIME!

That's right. You read that correctly. If she's not with you where you are, and not going to be with you where you are, then drop it. Never give a woman more than 1 minute to make a decision. 1 minute. That's all she gets. For life. 1 minute. And no more. She had a 1 minute opportunity for her entire life and failed to recognize what she had. 1 minute. That's all.

Never play by a woman's rules.

Never follow a woman.

Never listen to a woman.

Never think about a woman.

AND GIVE THEM NOTHING!

[Cerby]

Listen to me very carefully, because I want to give you a reality check. You have on average threescore and ten before it's all said and done. Not a lot of time. Read the writing on the wall--NO WOMAN IS WORTH ANY OF YOUR TIME!

That's right. You read that correctly. If she's not with you where you are, and not going to be with you where you are, then drop it. Never give a woman more than 1 minute to make a decision. 1 minute. That's all she gets. For life. 1 minute. And no more. She had a 1 minute opportunity for her entire life and failed to recognize what she had. 1 minute. That's all.

Never play by a woman's rules.

Never follow a woman.

Never listen to a woman.

Never think about a woman.

AND GIVE THEM NOTHING!

Sounds like some Red Pill bull in this post. OP, if you want some real advice that doesn't make you in to a d-bag, you can do one of two things. Wait it out until it is the right time (which most of us wouldn't do), or just leave it alone and move on. Don't waste time waiting for someone who isn't ready. Keep her on the back burner and pursue someone else in the mean time.

[johnson0000]

so uhh weird update...

she called me last night (she was slightly drunk) and told me she really, really likes me. She said she really likes me but is scared because we live almost a couple hours away from eachother, which i completely agree with.

i hadn't talked to her that much since other than her initiating conversations here and there. Have to say that was a real shocker.

I know i probably shouldn't try to make something happen, but its hard not to want to... what do you guys think?

[Boisdevie]

Next time she calls in the middle of the night just sat 'hey I'l come round right now and we can ****'.

She is jerking your chain.