Your man sounds very much like my boyfriend. He doesn't need the closeness like I do, he doesn't feel it is necessary to spend every waking minute with me and doesn't feel the need to tell me he loves me all the time.
I was used to a very full on intense relationship before him, we were very close and constantly intimate etc. so when I met my partner, after the honeymoon period was over I felt very 'untouched'.
I did speak to him about it, and since he has done little things to help that. He initiates the cuddling, sex and will act 'lovey'.. All the little things.
But after listening to him, I see more of the way he cares in the way he shows it. He calls me everyday to see how my day is going, he will make sure dinner is out on the table, make sure I have everything I need etc.
It isn't dramatic in wanting things to be the way you do, people show love in different ways and like others have mentioned it is understanding each other's language.
I have learned to love the way my partner is and see that he does in fact care and love me. But you have to decide if you can live with the way your partner shows his love without neglecting your own needs.
All the best