Hi guys,
1) I read in some online websites that if a guy pursues a girl for more than 3 dates (over a period of 2 - 3 weeks) and she's still not his official girlfriend, then it means he's never gonna succeed. Is this true? How long did you guys pursue your girl (and vice versa) before it became official?
2) I'm trying to take things to the next level cos right now, me and this girl I like seems to be in this "uncertain mode". We hugged once, kissed and I put my arms around her many times etc, but all these doesn't mean much cos' she mentioned before that some of her guy friends also put their arms around her (like those buddy-buddy bro-gal kind of thing, cos' she's a tomboy)
So, by taking it a step further, at least I know whether to continue or just move on. Cos in this current "uncertain mode", she's sending mixed signals.
When mutual friends teases us at gatherings and ask "when are you 2 gonna be together" etc, she never say no or reject, but just keep quiet (she's very extroverted usually), and I'm the one who answers this sort of situation.
Basically, what I intend to do is to ask her out (we've been on 3 dates), and my plan is:
a) Do some activity that can induce adrenaline rush to get us both on a high so it wouldn't be awkward later (ice skating, arcade etc.)
b) After the activity, go on a stroll
c) Midway among other topics, ask her "would u want me to give you up and move on, or would you give me the green light to go ahead to really pursue you and make you my official girlfriend?"
I wager this way, she would have to give a solid answer and then I can stop wasting time in this uncertain mode. Any feedback?
Tks!
LDD